I never got anywhere with this. My exBPDbf would either
- deny everything
- lie more by claiming he never told the lie
- lie more by saying he told me the truth but i misunderstood
- twist things around in an attempt to make me feel crazy for doubting him
- make the lie bigger and crazier in an attempt to make me believe it or make it acceptable
and my favorite when a mutual friend told me he was cheating on me for months. (i had confronted him several times with my suspicions.)
- "i couldn't tell you the truth because i knew you would freak out. you gave me no choice but to lie. it's your fault and you need to get over it."
He would even put his lies in writing only to contradict them later. When I would ask him which story was true I would either get the silent treatment or some comment like, "what kind of crazy person saves emails?".
So the little lies I let slide. The big ones I could not and that's why he is my ex. I was not married to him though and no kids, I am not sure what I would do in your situation. Unbelievably difficult! My thoughts are with you as well.
OMG you just described my husband to the perfect T! Are you sure you weren't dating him? LOL!
I am dealing with my H and this issue right now and he has committed a deal breaker by lying to me. It was bad enough I had to get law enforcement involved so I am now in the leaving phase of our marriage.
Martillo, honey I can't tell you to leave because that is your decision but, if he has crossed a line that cannot be forgiven then I suggest that you seriously consider it.