Today is her birthday we recycled on Monday, shall I send...

[nardila]

 this is our 6th recycle in 3 years and she broke up with me because I posted a new picture on my FB.  She said it was too sexy and accused me of marketing my sexiness and nakedness, it was a head shot.  She was very jealous and implied that i wanted people to hit on me.  Meanwhile, she posts pictures of herself all the time, of her legs, her lips, and pictures that show her breast, but of course, this is different.

This time I am not as upset for the breakup since I am starting to get her illness and we seem to be right on schedule, right before her birthday we have ended the relationship.  My question to you is shall I send her a happy birthday or do what I usually do, just let her be by herself and come when she is ready? which depend ending on the situation it has been usually a month, a month of no communication.  She is big on birthdays and the other times has told me how she wished i had send her a happy birthday even though we were not together.

For a change I am starting to recover from her changes faster and I am starting to not even miss her, perhaps it is because it just happened or perhaps because I expect her to return like she has so many times, not sure.  I think I am getting tired of her dis regulations so much that is killing the love and passion.

Thank you so much and please let me know... .  

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[raindancer]

I think, yes , you should.

There are cards for everything these days. Even blank cards that you can write your own message in. She's been around 3 years (recycled) so even if it's just a "thinking of you on your birthday" kind of thing, it's a nice sentiment. And, if nothing else will give you a bit of peace of mind... .  

We often don't like what our BPDs do, in fact sometimes they kill the love and passion we feel for them; but we nons still have hearts that beat, minds that care and consciences that make us wonder "could i have taken the high road?... .  on that"

So send her a card and stand on top of the mountain, it'll make you feel better even if you are thinking to go down the other side to see if the other valley is greener... .