Beginning to feel hopeless

[benny2]

Although things have been going relatively good the past few weeks, I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop. He is being almost to nice to me. Yes I am enjoying the attention, however, what's behind it? The man is completely helpless when it comes to grocery shopping, doctor appts. anything outside work or home. He is extremely responsible financially, almost obsessively. Maintains his home and personal belongings but will not do his own shopping, or go to his doctors appts. alone. His oldest daughter did all his shopping for him, now she is working full time and can no longer do it. I have arranged a day off work to go with him to his doctor appt. I have been doing his shopping the last few weeks. Is this why I am being treated so nice. He NEEDS me. His kids tell me he has been awful towards them lately. Apparently he is hiding this from me, because he has been extremely good to me. In all the posts and replys to me, I am beginning to think all my efforts to keep this man in  my life are hopeless. He will never be anything more than a lier, cheater, manipulator, and use women for whatever he needs. Basically I have to accept all that and realize that the fact he is being nice to me right now, is just another manipulation game to get what he needs. So much for the power of a good woman. Its just not strong enough to fight this disorder.

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[waverider]

I find that they can think the sun shines out of you know what while you are meeting their needs. Its not so much they treat you well to get you to do these things, more as a consequence of you doing them. Once you stop you become the meanest person on the planet. That is their thoughts are more reactive then proactive.

I know what you mean about how an intelligent adult just seems incapable of doing the most simple mundane things, and will go to great lengths to avoid them as though its some kind of secret phobia. my partner simply will not do mundane chores.

Despite everything I have learned it is my next big challenge and frankly I am stumped as how to get around this one