
papawapa
Having gone through a BPD divorce myself - the best advice I received was to get the best Therapist and Attorney for yourself that you can afford... . and that was very true.
Breathe - this is a marathon and not a sprint. As much as you can be wise, act wise... . your emotions are going to be all over the place for quite sometime... . but how you ACT will determine a lot about how long this process may take.
Breathe - often.
Eat - healthy and regularly
Exercise - whether you like it or not
Sleep - regularly
Be Grateful - fake it if you must
Kids - protect them by taking care of yourself and them
Breathe - yep, I said it again... . when you get feeling crazy, focus on your breathing, it really will help.
Hang in there, you are not alone. There is a WEALTH of info on the legal board, use it, trust it - it took me several months of thinking, "certainly my divorce won't be like that... . ", ummm, yeah, well - I learned the hard way.
Good for you for getting an attorney - hopefully she is skilled as much as she is attractive.
Peace,
SB