Excellent use of SET, you kept the negative consequence (T) about you not him
waverider... . I had no idea that's what I was doing
but I'm sure glad it worked! He often (way more often than I'd like) says that I need to choose my words carefully. He wants me to be very literal~~even though he's not He recently read an email that he mistakenly sent to me and was scratching his head because even he couldn't figure out what the heck he was saying! We chuckled over that.
At any rate~~it's progress and I'm happy for the smallest of victories. The "renovation" is coming to an end. He'll likely be starting a full time job soon which will give him some sense of purpose, a place to be (other than sitting home surfing the internet reading Syrian news and getting depressed), some $ in his pocket and health insurance. It's an easy, low stress job where he can work alone (which he loves) with lots of down time so he can sit and play his guitar. I'm hoping this works out for him.