Although I have not been post on the board recently I did post this thread yesterday?
Communication Issues
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=203515.0 The one thing I did not add to that thread is after that conversation during that MC session, I mentioned I was going to get away to my family for a couple days. (She hates my family with more passion, than I have ever hated anything, she feels about the same for her own family) parents, siblings.
During the drive home that night (hour drive) she did not say one word, she slept in the extra bedroom, yesterday morning not one word, she come in the door after work last night and not one word, she ran out of the house, after a couple hours I got concerned, I called her only friend, she did call her friend earlier in the evening, but hours before I called(friend also was no help for me.) My wife would not answer my calls or text, and it was many hours later and I got very concerned. Eventually, she shut her phone off. I decided to calle and filed a report with the police, I was concerned for her safety(harming herself she has many comments before). I did finally get some sleep, when I woke up 4 am or so, she was home(and I think sleeping). I went back to sleep, when I woke again 2 hours later, she was awake, and I asked her if she wanted to talk and I got a blank stare.
My wife did flip out at the end of the MC session. The MC said to my wife, I will give you a couple says to decompress, may have a quick call your own T, and lets met again Saturday(today). That will be this afternoon.
I have all the bad stories about MC, I think in-part because of these boards, I have been able to maybe get her the help she needs, even if I can not save my marriage. (Still hopping for the save). One to two things during each MC session, the MC gives my wife advice to talk about during her own T. You should talk about that, that, or this. I hope you talking about this subject to you T. Maybe once, I was provided advice, to talk about to my T, and it was a rather trivial matter.