Do they think we're stupid?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I was very specific in how I felt about her before I divorced my BPDexw.  I left no room for interpretation.  She's been gone for 2 years next month and has married the man she was having her affair with and now she's starting to test the waters with me.  Incredible.   As if my feelings have changed or ever will change.  The answer to that is a resounding NO.  Yet, she seems to think I may have softened or something over time.  WTH? 

I've learned, a huge amount.  I've grown.  I've been wounded, damn near mortally and have recovered.  I must admit that the wording she used in the letter she wrote to me and passed through our son broke my heart but I will not bend.  Once a leopard, always a leopard.  Their spots never change.

We're not stupid.  We were just human and we loved them and gave all we could.  To that, I am not ashamed but I will not be duped again.

And none of you should either.  We need to look at our scars sometimes to remind us of what we went through so that we never tread down that path again.

[imstronghere2]

I was very specific in how I felt about her before I divorced my BPDexw.  I left no room for interpretation.  She's been gone for 2 years next month and has married the man she was having her affair with and now she's starting to test the waters with me.  Incredible.   As if my feelings have changed or ever will change.  The answer to that is a resounding NO.  Yet, she seems to think I may have softened or something over time.  WTH? 

I've learned, a huge amount.  I've grown.  I've been wounded, damn near mortally and have recovered.  I must admit that the wording she used in the letter she wrote to me and passed through our son broke my heart but I will not bend.  Once a leopard, always a leopard.  Their spots never change.

We're not stupid.  We were just human and we loved them and gave all we could.  To that, I am not ashamed but I will not be duped again.

And none of you should either.  We need to look at our scars sometimes to remind us of what we went through so that we never tread down that path again.

[willtimeheal]

I don't think they live in reality.  After everything my BPD put me through she still has the balls to blame me for our entire break up.  She was the one who broke up with me!  She went out and found a new guy within 2 weeks and was moving in with him and she is yelling at me.  Then she wants me back. i am the only one she will love and then blames me for the mess she created with this new guy.  They are crazy.  They are a tornado that destroys everything in its path.  They have no recollection of their destruction and no empathy or compassion.  And they wonder why they have no friends or no one to rely on.  And I question if they really aren't in touch with reality or if they have a distorted view-or is it just easier to look not look at what they have done or blame the BPD or others.