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« on: July 04, 2013, 08:18:50 AM »

I noticed a patern today with my girlfriend and was wondering if this happens to anyone else. When we get up in the morning she's all lovey dovey but if something happens in the afternoon then I'm gonna pay for it the rest of the day.
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« Reply #1 on: July 04, 2013, 08:23:10 AM »

sounds like alot of mood swings... . mine is the same way, except in the morning when he first wakes up, he is not in the best of moods... . til he has his coffee, and feels better.

I always take time away to be by myself, and not put up with the rages, grouchiness or any of his offbeat behaviors.
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« Reply #2 on: July 04, 2013, 08:46:07 AM »

You know sometimes when she is saying that my I love you doesn't sound sincere or that I'm not loyal I just want to scream and ask her number "Who would put up with this hit if they didn't love you". I don't say that. sometimes i really want too tho.
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« Reply #3 on: July 04, 2013, 09:42:56 AM »

You know sometimes when she is saying that my I love you doesn't sound sincere or that I'm not loyal I just want to scream and ask her number "Who would put up with this  if they didn't love you". I don't say that. sometimes i really want too tho.

You are being triggered, and she knows that, that is why she says it, she is testing you. She can read your emotions regardless of what you say. The only way around this is to learn the lessons here to reduce your own tendency to be triggered.

Flip flopping moods for no reason that is apparent to you is normal, and she will let her mood out on you whether it has anything to do with you or not.

You cannot change what she does, only how it affects you and how you react to it.
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« Reply #4 on: July 04, 2013, 01:58:04 PM »

Historically mornings are not good for DW... . Once in a blue moon will she be happy in the am... . Actually... . thinking back to the PD's of have known... . AM has never been their forte either... . just an observation
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« Reply #5 on: July 04, 2013, 01:59:34 PM »

You know sometimes when she is saying that my I love you doesn't sound sincere or that I'm not loyal I just want to scream and ask her number "Who would put up with this  if they didn't love you". I don't say that. sometimes i really want too tho.

With you on this one 100%... .
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« Reply #6 on: July 04, 2013, 06:31:45 PM »

Mine is at her best in the morning and fades as the day goes on. Possibly a build up of medications, stress and stewing over issues. Sleep deprivation (occasionally forces herself to stay awake all night) creates a monster day. Time to go fishing.!
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« Reply #7 on: July 04, 2013, 08:37:08 PM »

It really depends for my H.  When he has had good sleep, pleasant dreams and so on he wakes up in a good mood.

Sometimes he starts triggering me the moment he wakes up, probably because he didn't sleep well and spent a lot of time going down a negative spiral about me. 

And of course things can change in the blink of an eye... . unpredictability is the most predictable thing in him.
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