Another month

[Depression = 72% of members]

My SO went to the doctor yesterday and will have to stay off her broken foot for another month. She spent the first six months of the year recovering from serious surgery, then things were looking up, and she broke her foot in three places. She'd lost her insurance and was off her meds and doing just fine until the 2nd injury. Now she's got her insurance again and is back on the meds and they are making her more nuts now. If she doesn't find something productive to do soon I will hide her Candy Crush Saga machine.

That continued question of am I dealing with a real person treating me badly or dealing with a mental illness that's out of control sometimes... . But either way... . Do not take it out on me.

A couple weeks ago she lost it, attacked me, broke family heirlooms, and trashed me on facebook where she's friends with many of my coworkers. Really not cool. I told her that was it, she'd broken everything, it was over.

She believed me and it lead to a calm discussion about breaking up and how to do it as we have lived together 12 years and are broke. She said she'd been abusing me physically for 8 years and it was crazy for me to stay in that situation. She said I've been saying "Why can't you just be nice to me?" for seven years. We discussed breaking up seriously for the first time ever and agreed the idea was too heartbreaking for us to move forward with right now. But it feels different now, like it's real if we want it to be. We're trying to be on the same side but there is so much resentment on my side and guilt on hers. She gave me the opportunity to leave and I made the choice to stay. A choice. That felt good.

I still can't give up the hope that we will have everything we want some day, together. And more and more of me believes there's a problem with her brain that's just incurable. But the nicer I am to her the nicer she is to me and I'm trying to be positive about everything in my life 'cause I was heading down a really negative road again.

And that is the latest update.

[peacebaby]

My SO went to the doctor yesterday and will have to stay off her broken foot for another month. She spent the first six months of the year recovering from serious surgery, then things were looking up, and she broke her foot in three places. She'd lost her insurance and was off her meds and doing just fine until the 2nd injury. Now she's got her insurance again and is back on the meds and they are making her more nuts now. If she doesn't find something productive to do soon I will hide her Candy Crush Saga machine.

That continued question of am I dealing with a real person treating me badly or dealing with a mental illness that's out of control sometimes... . But either way... . Do not take it out on me.

A couple weeks ago she lost it, attacked me, broke family heirlooms, and trashed me on facebook where she's friends with many of my coworkers. Really not cool. I told her that was it, she'd broken everything, it was over.

She believed me and it lead to a calm discussion about breaking up and how to do it as we have lived together 12 years and are broke. She said she'd been abusing me physically for 8 years and it was crazy for me to stay in that situation. She said I've been saying "Why can't you just be nice to me?" for seven years. We discussed breaking up seriously for the first time ever and agreed the idea was too heartbreaking for us to move forward with right now. But it feels different now, like it's real if we want it to be. We're trying to be on the same side but there is so much resentment on my side and guilt on hers. She gave me the opportunity to leave and I made the choice to stay. A choice. That felt good.

I still can't give up the hope that we will have everything we want some day, together. And more and more of me believes there's a problem with her brain that's just incurable. But the nicer I am to her the nicer she is to me and I'm trying to be positive about everything in my life 'cause I was heading down a really negative road again.

And that is the latest update.

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Sometimes a lot can grow from being ready to let go 

[bruceli]

My SO went to the doctor yesterday and will have to stay off her broken foot for another month. She spent the first six months of the year recovering from serious surgery, then things were looking up, and she broke her foot in three places. She'd lost her insurance and was off her meds and doing just fine until the 2nd injury. Now she's got her insurance again and is back on the meds and they are making her more nuts now. If she doesn't find something productive to do soon I will hide her Candy Crush Saga machine.

That continued question of am I dealing with a real person treating me badly or dealing with a mental illness that's out of control sometimes... . But either way... . Do not take it out on me.

A couple weeks ago she lost it, attacked me, broke family heirlooms, and trashed me on facebook where she's friends with many of my coworkers. Really not cool. I told her that was it, she'd broken everything, it was over.

She believed me and it lead to a calm discussion about breaking up and how to do it as we have lived together 12 years and are broke. She said she'd been abusing me physically for 8 years and it was crazy for me to stay in that situation. She said I've been saying "Why can't you just be nice to me?" for seven years. We discussed breaking up seriously for the first time ever and agreed the idea was too heartbreaking for us to move forward with right now. But it feels different now, like it's real if we want it to be. We're trying to be on the same side but there is so much resentment on my side and guilt on hers. She gave me the opportunity to leave and I made the choice to stay. A choice. That felt good.

I still can't give up the hope that we will have everything we want some day, together. And more and more of me believes there's a problem with her brain that's just incurable. But the nicer I am to her the nicer she is to me and I'm trying to be positive about everything in my life 'cause I was heading down a really negative road again.

And that is the latest update.

Off meds good, back on meds bad?  What meds is she on?  Misdiagnosed/wrong meds it seems... .