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I just heard from my exBPDgf after 6 days of silence. Our last conversation was by phone in which she was just chewing me out and insulting me. I finally asked her did just want to end again. She said there wont be no again and yes she did want to end it. I then told her to never call me phone again and hung up on her. She has some clothes at my house. I just got text saying since you said not to call you I will text. I want my things you have at your house. I hope we can be adults and remain civil with each other. I so confused and frustrated. We had been getting along since we got back togther, she had told everyone we was gettnig married, she was planning our wedding. I started having some health issues could be serious not sure yet. and then she starts picking not stop fights and where nothing i say will work and everything i say she counters with something that didnt happen or its so distorted that it doesnt make sense. I have been here many times with her in the last 2.7 years and Im am tired. But it still breaks my heart. Her texts were so cold and withdrawn. like she had no emotions. Not that i expected her to gushing with emotions by still she was just so cold after such closeness. Its very hard to bare. I know it has to be over, its getting ridiculous around and around. I have such a broken feeling inside of me. Im worried about this and my possible health concerns. Did she bail becasue we got so close again? or was it becasue Of my health problems it all started the day I got some test results back. Once again im in misery.

[mitchell16]

I just heard from my exBPDgf after 6 days of silence. Our last conversation was by phone in which she was just chewing me out and insulting me. I finally asked her did just want to end again. She said there wont be no again and yes she did want to end it. I then told her to never call me phone again and hung up on her. She has some clothes at my house. I just got text saying since you said not to call you I will text. I want my things you have at your house. I hope we can be adults and remain civil with each other. I so confused and frustrated. We had been getting along since we got back togther, she had told everyone we was gettnig married, she was planning our wedding. I started having some health issues could be serious not sure yet. and then she starts picking not stop fights and where nothing i say will work and everything i say she counters with something that didnt happen or its so distorted that it doesnt make sense. I have been here many times with her in the last 2.7 years and Im am tired. But it still breaks my heart. Her texts were so cold and withdrawn. like she had no emotions. Not that i expected her to gushing with emotions by still she was just so cold after such closeness. Its very hard to bare. I know it has to be over, its getting ridiculous around and around. I have such a broken feeling inside of me. Im worried about this and my possible health concerns. Did she bail becasue we got so close again? or was it becasue Of my health problems it all started the day I got some test results back. Once again im in misery.

[mitchell16]

also I bloked her from my facebook so she could see anything I was doing and also so I would be tempte dto check on hers. BUt two days ago one of her best friends requested to be my friend. I think this was very strange since we have ben dating over two years and thsi person has never asked to be my friend. we beak up and 5 days later after bloking my exBPD hre friends asked me to friend her. any words of advice would be apprciated.

[Reg]

Mitchell,

One of the first things I did was blocking her on FB.  Get a new mobile phone number, and she now even thinks I have a new e-mail adress... .

Personally it didn't take me very long to see that my ex BPD was "looking" at my FB page via some former mutual friends from the region where she lives.  And nobody had contact with her they claimed (there were 5 of them).  They even said not to be friends with her anymore.

So I did the test and did put something on it, and it bounced right back to me in a mail from her, not directly but undirectly phrased.

On that moment I took a serious decision.  I knew that she was in contact with at least two of these persons, so I did remove them all, from the first till the last one.  None of them ever asked why... .   I have no more trouble with what I post on my wall.  I even mentioned the book I'm writing on the relationship (with other names) and it didn't bounce back again to me.  Confirmed !

Do not forget that they are extremely manipulative, without understanding that they are manipulating, so my advice would be to refuse it.  Or otherwise... . You can stay friendly and ask directly to the person why he/she wants to be friends now all at once.  I think the answer will be very vague... .   Or if you get an answer, you can put it into the group again.

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