I'm helping a friend do some live testing for an online therapy site she's helping to put together. Part of what she asked me to do was log in and ask their panel of expert counselors as many questions as I could think of, and then let her know how they did. I know I have a million and one things that confuse me about my past relationships, but I've never talked to a therapist before (online or in real life) and I'm not really sure where to start. Anyone have any suggestions? Were there things you talked about with your therapist that really helped you to understand what was going on?
I talk about everything with my therapist but it's good to have some emotional goals in place to help your therapist understand what you really need help in.
Also. All therapists aren't a good fit for those who have experienced the trauma bonds that come with being involved with a borderline or narcissist. There are therapists who aren't a good fit for our very unique experience in being involved with a borderline.
All in all a therapist can prove to be invaluable in the healing process but the pace of your healing also depends on you. I really wanted to heal, be whole and learn from this experience. It was a very traumatizing and traumatic experience and I never want to ever be where I was when I was with my ex.
Think about your goals in therapy and be willing to be open to the process.
Some of my goals:
To learn about how my family history affected my intimate relationships.
To learn how to forgive.
To better understand narcissism.
To heal trauma from my past.
To emotionally mature myself.
To learn how to love myself.
To forgive my parents (still working on this one)
Spell
