Home page of BPDFamily.com, online relationship supportMember registration here
June 15, 2024, 01:48:51 PM *
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Board Admins: Kells76, Once Removed, Turkish
Senior Ambassadors: EyesUp, SinisterComplex
  Help!   Boards   Please Donate Login to Post New?--Click here to register  
bing
Experts share their discoveries [video]
99
Could it be BPD
BPDFamily.com Production
Listening to shame
Brené Brown, PhD
What is BPD?
Blasé Aguirre, MD
What BPD recovery looks like
Documentary
Pages: [1]   Go Down
  Print  
Author Topic: A day dealing with a BPD  (Read 363 times)
maxsterling
********
Offline Offline

Gender: Male
What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Romantic Partner
Relationship status: living together, engaged
Posts: 2772



« on: August 13, 2013, 12:19:10 AM »

My BPD gf raged and hit me on Friday night.  Saturday, she said she was going to stay with a friend this week.  She's been there since.  I hadn't seen her or talked to her besides text messages until today.

Last night, she sent me a text saying what a good guy I was and that she loves me.  It was late, and I didn't respond.  This morning, she sent a text saying how she wants to break her contract and quit her job because she thinks it is making her sick.  I responded that she should put her health first, but reminded her she quit her last two jobs because they were too stressful and thought things would be better if she quit.  But she was then stressed at not having money or a job.  And then she sent me an angry text that I should not give her a lecture about what to do with her life, and what she wanted was support and not judgment.  She said I was causing her stress in her life.  I told her that I meant no judgment, and that I just wanted to help.

Then her complaint was again about lack of health insurance, and how she needs to see a doctor ASAP and get on medication.  She said she was suicidal and very unstable.  I told her I was concerned.  She later said her AA sponsor would loan her money to see a doctor until her insurance card came.  I later said that I didn't want her to spend tonight alone (her friend is out of town), and invited her over for dinner.  She said that she didn't want to come over, but suggested I meet her somewhere after her AA meeting.  Later, I text messaged her and suggested a place.  She responded angrily, asking why I wanted to go to dinner with her and why I was suggesting a restaurant, saying she didn't want me to dump her in a public place, and that she was very unstable.  I reassured her that I did not want to talk about the relationship, was not planning on telling her to leave my house, and not planning to end the relationship.  I said it would just be nice to see her.  So, she reluctantly agreed to meet me.

I met her at a restaurant, and she didn't want to eat.  I ordered a milkshake, which she wanted to share with me.   She sat there and stared with a depressed look on her face and barely talked.  When I bought things up, she gave short answers.  She complained of being tired and cold.  And she said she must have blown a breaker at the townhouse she is staying at.  I told her I could come by and turn it on for her.

So, I followed her over there, and she wanted me to come in and watch TV with her.  And then she said "isn't this place nice?"  She then said that it was nice to be in a place with a comfortable sofa and that I should get a bigger TV (she CONSTANTLY complained about my sofa).  I told her I needed to leave soon, but she didn't want me to go, and cuddled with me and wanted to watch more TV. 

So, in the course of 24 hours, I was a great guy, then a guy causing her great stress, then fearful I was going to leave her, then reluctantly wanted to see me, then made digs bout my TV and sofa, then didn't want me to leave.

For the sake of everyone in her life, I certainly hope she gets help soon.  Real soon. 

Logged

PLEASE - NO RUN MESSAGES
This is a high level discussion board for solving ongoing, day-to-day relationship conflicts. Members may appear frustrated but they are here for constructive solutions to problems. This is not a place for relationship "stay" or "leave" discussions. Please read the specific guidelines for this group.

bruceli
*****
Offline Offline

What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Posts: 636


WWW
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2013, 11:41:07 AM »

Same thing going on here... . hang in there... . this too shall pass... .
Logged
Can You Help Us Stay on the Air in 2024?

Pages: [1]   Go Up
  Print  
 
Jump to:  

Our 2023 Financial Sponsors
We are all appreciative of the members who provide the funding to keep BPDFamily on the air.
12years
alterK
AskingWhy
At Bay
Cat Familiar
CoherentMoose
drained1996
EZEarache
Flora and Fauna
ForeverDad
Gemsforeyes
Goldcrest
Harri
healthfreedom4s
hope2727
khibomsis
Lemon Squeezy
Memorial Donation (4)
Methos
Methuen
Mommydoc
Mutt
P.F.Change
Penumbra66
Red22
Rev
SamwizeGamgee
Skip
Swimmy55
Tartan Pants
Turkish
whirlpoollife



Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.21 | SMF © 2006-2020, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!