BPD relationships do have a starting point and ending point - its the ending point we have a hard time reconciling... . closure comes if you look hard enough - its likely to be found all the through the relationship - there is a part of us that really does not want to see it - because we needed to be needed and needed to be loved.
Idealization is not love its need.
Why do you keep going back for rounds Ironman? What is it about you that needs to go back?
I saw more then enough the second go around to know that it was never in my best interest to have allowed her back in. That sunk in when she left.
Its all the other consequences stemming from that, that i am trying to digest... . but seem to vomit back up.
I honestly do not want to go back... . i know what awaits me. Me being hurt.