They hold the BPD diagnose over our heads

[Mike76]

So my BPD wife does have a official BPD diagnose  (I saw some paperwork),   long before this I was one these boards, and what she has told me adds up.  She only say "I have a diagnoses and these are some of the symptoms".  BPD has not even been mentioned one time,  she just say I have "Ineffective Instability",  she has told me herself and in MC.  The MC know of "The Official" diagnoses because it has been mentioned they have consulted.   I got the feeling the MC does not completely agree with the idea of not sharing with me, but is going along with it for right now.

To the subject "They hold the diagnoses over our heads",  this now happens to me often.  If set a boundary, I say something she disagrees with, or I do something that makes her upset the follow happens.   I told you should not act that way or I told you not say things like that because it effects me more that most people.    "I have a diagnoses and you need to stay quite".      I heard once or twice,   "I have a diagnoses so I can act the way I do"

Is this progress or no real progress?

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