What was?

[BlackOrWhite]

The last thing they said?

[Ironmanrises]

"Let me be... ."

In fact... .

My exUBPDgf... .

Said that to me... .

As the very last things... .

Muttered from her lips... .

In both ___ing discards.

Thing is... .

I was "letting her be... ."

After Round 1 discard... .

And attempting to heal... .

And move on... .

With my life... .

When she returned... .

To me... .

For Round 2.

Can we take a guess... .

That since she said the very... .

Exact thing to me... .

As the very last thing... .

In Round 2 discard... .

What her next step will be... .?

Doesn't take a rocket scientist... .

To figure this ___ out.

I hate this ___ing disorder.

With a passion.

[maxen]

"i'm very confused."

which, my T pointed out, are the only true words she's said since june when she drove off to her move in with her lover.

it was an email. i didn't respond.

I hate this ___ing disorder.

With a passion.

[DownandOut]

"Let me be... ."

In fact... .

My exUBPDgf... .

Said that to me... .

As the very last things... .

Muttered from her lips... .

In both ___ing discards.

Thing is... .

I was "letting her be... ."

After Round 1 discard... .

And attempting to heal... .

And move on... .

With my life... .

When she returned... .

To me... .

For Round 2.

Can we take a guess... .

That since she said the very... .

Exact thing to me... .

As the very last thing... .

In Round 2 discard... .

What her next step will be... .?

Doesn't take a rocket scientist... .

To figure this ___ out.

I hate this ___ing disorder.

With a passion.

I'm so with you Ironman! This disorder is a scourge on humanity. Mine gave me some variation of "let her be," she told me that she was a butterfly that needed to fly. She also told me that although I give her space she could tell that I was reluctant to do so. I started believing that I actually was too smothering because I agreed that we had been through the same thing so many times that I may have been reluctant to give her space - that just wasn't true, but she made me convince myself it was. If anything, she had too much space since we lived in different states and I wouldn't blink an eye if she wanted to go party with her friends or be independent. I actually encourage independence! She wanted more space from me because she was cheating, or at least had the rebound on the back burner, and she wanted to see if she could make it work with him first before she discarded me - I didn't give her that luxury. I got the "I'm confused" sob story too.

[BlackOrWhite]

"Let me be... ."

In fact... .

My exUBPDgf... .

Said that to me... .

As the very last things... .

Muttered from her lips... .

In both ___ing discards.

Thing is... .

I was "letting her be... ."

After Round 1 discard... .

And attempting to heal... .

And move on... .

With my life... .

When she returned... .

To me... .

For Round 2.

Can we take a guess... .

That since she said the very... .

Exact thing to me... .

As the very last thing... .

In Round 2 discard... .

What her next step will be... .?

Doesn't take a rocket scientist... .

To figure this ___ out.

I hate this ___ing disorder.

With a passion.

I'm so with you Ironman! This disorder is a scourge on humanity. Mine gave me some variation of "let her be," she told me that she was a butterfly that needed to fly. She also told me that although I give her space she could tell that I was reluctant to do so. I started believing that I actually was too smothering because I agreed that we had been through the same thing so many times that I may have been reluctant to give her space - that just wasn't true, but she made me convince myself it was. If anything, she had too much space since we lived in different states and I wouldn't blink an eye if she wanted to go party with her friends or be independent. I actually encourage independence! She wanted more space from me because she was cheating, or at least had the rebound on the back burner, and she wanted to see if she could make it work with him first before she discarded me - I didn't give her that luxury. I got the "I'm confused" sob story too.

Weird. She sounds narc like. That doesn't sound like BPD at all.

[DownandOut]

"Let me be... ."

In fact... .

My exUBPDgf... .

Said that to me... .

As the very last things... .

Muttered from her lips... .

In both ___ing discards.

Thing is... .

I was "letting her be... ."

After Round 1 discard... .

And attempting to heal... .

And move on... .

With my life... .

When she returned... .

To me... .

For Round 2.

Can we take a guess... .

That since she said the very... .

Exact thing to me... .

As the very last thing... .

In Round 2 discard... .

What her next step will be... .?

Doesn't take a rocket scientist... .

To figure this ___ out.

I hate this ___ing disorder.

With a passion.

I'm so with you Ironman! This disorder is a scourge on humanity. Mine gave me some variation of "let her be," she told me that she was a butterfly that needed to fly. She also told me that although I give her space she could tell that I was reluctant to do so. I started believing that I actually was too smothering because I agreed that we had been through the same thing so many times that I may have been reluctant to give her space - that just wasn't true, but she made me convince myself it was. If anything, she had too much space since we lived in different states and I wouldn't blink an eye if she wanted to go party with her friends or be independent. I actually encourage independence! She wanted more space from me because she was cheating, or at least had the rebound on the back burner, and she wanted to see if she could make it work with him first before she discarded me - I didn't give her that luxury. I got the "I'm confused" sob story too.

Weird. She sounds narc like. That doesn't sound like BPD at all.

She has many, if not all, BPD traits except the self-harm. Although I definitely agree that she is indeed narc as well. There is a lot of overlap between the two.

[Aw511]

he said that for him, it is sometimes easier to let people go than to hold on to them, then he told me he loved me as i walked away for the last time... .

[Waifed]

Mine said in an email "I have changed my phone number.  Please stop harassing me, I have contacted and attorney".  Funny thing was I hadn't initiated contact in over 2 weeks, .  This was followed up that afternoon from the Police asking me not to contact her or her friend(s).  F&*k Her!  If only I hadn't asked her to Google BPD the day before   

[BlackOrWhite]

"Let me be... ."

In fact... .

My exUBPDgf... .

Said that to me... .

As the very last things... .

Muttered from her lips... .

In both ___ing discards.

Thing is... .

I was "letting her be... ."

After Round 1 discard... .

And attempting to heal... .

And move on... .

With my life... .

When she returned... .

To me... .

For Round 2.

Can we take a guess... .

That since she said the very... .

Exact thing to me... .

As the very last thing... .

In Round 2 discard... .

What her next step will be... .?

Doesn't take a rocket scientist... .

To figure this ___ out.

I hate this ___ing disorder.

With a passion.

I'm so with you Ironman! This disorder is a scourge on humanity. Mine gave me some variation of "let her be," she told me that she was a butterfly that needed to fly. She also told me that although I give her space she could tell that I was reluctant to do so. I started believing that I actually was too smothering because I agreed that we had been through the same thing so many times that I may have been reluctant to give her space - that just wasn't true, but she made me convince myself it was. If anything, she had too much space since we lived in different states and I wouldn't blink an eye if she wanted to go party with her friends or be independent. I actually encourage independence! She wanted more space from me because she was cheating, or at least had the rebound on the back burner, and she wanted to see if she could make it work with him first before she discarded me - I didn't give her that luxury. I got the "I'm confused" sob story too.

Weird. She sounds narc like. That doesn't sound like BPD at all.

She has many, if not all, BPD traits except the self-harm. Although I definitely agree that she is indeed narc as well. There is a lot of overlap between the two.

It's just weird to ask for my space. My BPD never asked for space. She just wouldn't get close but wouldn't ever really say it you know? She was very clingy and wanted to be around me all the time but at the same time distant.

[Learning_curve74]

I don't remember and I don't care. That's not what she said, that's what I'm saying now.

[DownandOut]

It's just weird to ask for my space. My BPD never asked for space. She just wouldn't get close but wouldn't ever really say it you know? She was very clingy and wanted to be around me all the time but at the same time distant.[/quote]
That's the thing, mine was extremely clingy. Like I said above, she was welcome to go out and enjoy herself with her friends and be independent because, of course, I loved and trusted her. At the same time, if I went out with friends she would make a big deal and would expect me to text back and forth with her so she could feel comfortable. Similar to your experience, mine would also be distant at the same time. Mine started getting distant as soon as I began to get chummy with her friends and family - it really had nothing to do with her "space," but more to do with the relationship getting more serious.

[EdR]

Mine said in an email "I have changed my phone number.  Please stop harassing me, I have contacted and attorney".  Funny thing was I hadn't initiated contact in over 2 weeks, .  This was followed up that afternoon from the Police asking me not to contact her or her friend(s).  F&*k Her!  If only I hadn't asked her to Google BPD the day before   

Question: Is this regular BPD behaviour as well? I'm not referring to the police/attorney part, but just using 'external methods' of pushing away.

I actually saw that once as well. Only to experience the complete opposite the next day 

Is this just a sign that they truly, absolutely, couldn't cope in that moment? I mean, more so than in other situations?

Or is it something different?

I'd be very interested to know :-)