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« on: November 04, 2013, 11:46:20 AM »

After a messy exchange of emails, my BPD father imposed the silent treatment & "I will never speak to you again" on me. I did a lot of reading yesterday (thank you, Geeky Girl!), and learned for the first time about S.E.T. He wrote me again this morning - insulting and angry - BUT I believe this is an opening for me to try to use S.E.T. I wrote him a short message back, with more empathy and support (and calmer!) and gave him positive kudos for seeing a counselor for PTSD.

I'm realistic, but hopeful at the same time... .I will update as to the outcome...

Thanks all,

Oles
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« Reply #1 on: November 04, 2013, 07:09:21 PM »

Yay! I'm glad that SET is helping! It does take some practice, but it's a great tool.

Do keep us posted! We're all here for you. 
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