Replacement

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

So this situation got really weird. My ex of 5 years kicked me out and immediately replaced me with someone. Moved them in within 2 weeks. This was her Best friend of 15 years (we are all women). So my exBPD was contacting me nonstop after I had gotten my own place. She kept calling and telling me that the new gf was leaving so that we could get back together. This went on for a couple of months. Every week she would say the SAME thing. She told me she was in living hell and missed me and was haunted by memories. Well I blocked her and told her to quit contacting me. She did it again from someone elses phone and I had had enough. I contacted the replacement and told her EVERYTHING. I sent screen shots of all the texts. Her and I ended up hanging out and I found out the my ex cheated the WHOLE time. Also that the person that she was with before me. Had 2 kids (I only thought one) and they had been together up until the point that her and I got together. So at one time I was the replacement too. The new gf had the SAME Tiffany's bracelot I did... .This is just so bizzare to me. Things got a little out of hand and I started seeing the new gf behind her back. (I know I played their games). The new girl is just as much of a mess as the ex. I ended that I dont know what that was but it made me feel better. Does this sound like a familiar story or is this completely ridiculous. Who gets 2 girls the same bracelot. This girl lied to me the WHOLE time.

[dazednconfused2954]

So this situation got really weird. My ex of 5 years kicked me out and immediately replaced me with someone. Moved them in within 2 weeks. This was her Best friend of 15 years (we are all women). So my exBPD was contacting me nonstop after I had gotten my own place. She kept calling and telling me that the new gf was leaving so that we could get back together. This went on for a couple of months. Every week she would say the SAME thing. She told me she was in living hell and missed me and was haunted by memories. Well I blocked her and told her to quit contacting me. She did it again from someone elses phone and I had had enough. I contacted the replacement and told her EVERYTHING. I sent screen shots of all the texts. Her and I ended up hanging out and I found out the my ex cheated the WHOLE time. Also that the person that she was with before me. Had 2 kids (I only thought one) and they had been together up until the point that her and I got together. So at one time I was the replacement too. The new gf had the SAME Tiffany's bracelot I did... .This is just so bizzare to me. Things got a little out of hand and I started seeing the new gf behind her back. (I know I played their games). The new girl is just as much of a mess as the ex. I ended that I dont know what that was but it made me feel better. Does this sound like a familiar story or is this completely ridiculous. Who gets 2 girls the same bracelot. This girl lied to me the WHOLE time.

[Ironmanrises]

I am really sorry you experienced that. Account after account i read on here about cheating/replaced has really got me thinking if the same happened to me.

[Waifed]

It is amazing to see all the craziness these people create.  What is more amazing is the fact these people do not care about anything but themselves.  They are disgusting, sorry excuses for human beings.  They are lowest of life forms, scumbags who deserve everything that they have coming to them.  I pity them. 

What is more amazing is that we get so addicted to them (or at least what they seem to be).  I can not wait to get over all of this.  It just makes me sick.

[Nearlybroken]

It has only been recently that I discovered a few "home truths" about my relationship with my expwBPD.He initially treated me "too well", expensive presents and over the top gestures etc etc that I actually found a little uncomfortable.I later found out that he had done the same with his ex wife.He then went on to display exactly the same behaviour to me as he had done to her... .the arguments, the angry texts,the walking away and silent treatment.I doubt she was as "black" as he painted her to me.And now I get glimpses of his behaviour towards my replacement on facebook... .and guess what?he is chasing my replacement in EXACTLY  the same way as he chased me... .liking all of her pictures,putting the SAME comments on her page as he used to put on mine.Its scary.I have no doubt that in the same way he texted me relentlessly in order to get a date with me, he will be texting her.He treated me in the same way as he treated his wife.He will eventually treat my replacement in the same way he treated me.Towards the end of our relationship he would shout EXACTLY the same things to me as he called his ex wife.Frightening... .these people have the same relationship patterns  with totally different people.NB.x

[GlennT]

They do not merely tell lies, they ARE a piece of fiction. The BPD must lie in intimate relationships, due to their fear of abandonment, and extinction, caused by perceived childhood trauma. The wider and deeper the abyss, or threat of their true selves becoming exposed, the more they lie and cheat. Rather than jump into the scary abyss to find their true selves, their true self hides behind a safer false self deep in a cave, with your replacement, when they feel threatened in an intimate relationship. As for the same bracelets, they love to utilize compartmentalization. People and objects are categorized when not in use, or ready for use.It gives them a sense of control  Having the same bracelets could have been seen as using the same leash for a new dog, that belonged to a previous one. They even say the same, or similar script, to replacements if you study them closely.

[Pretty Woman]

Dazed,

  Sister, I hear ya.

This was my first same sex relationship and I picked a WINNER!

1st few months were so honeymoon, idealized like you wouldn't believe.

For 18mo I endured being dumped pretty much every three months. The last time she ran off to her ex from 8yrs ago who dumped her for her partner she was just breaking from.

When I asked for closure my ex threatened a restraining order. I kept quiet. She came back a month later (the ex lived 5hrs away) and I took her back.

This time she actually came over and dumped me, said we should see other people but she loved me very much and I was her "best friend" (since she screwed up that relationship with the ex she left me for by leaving her for me again).

I knew immediately she was with a mutual friend who is denying it because she isn't even a lesbian (experimenting).

My ex now says she can never trust me and I told all her personal info (which I did to this friend after the last break). I felt so betrayed... .now she says I betrayed HER.

She has blocked my number, FB and Email.

I am certain I am painted blacker than black. I know she has recycled exes and is friends with all of them. I suspect since I know her little secret I am in the doghouse forever.