Boomerang Ended?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hi All,

Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving. 

I need some insight. 

I dated a uBPD for the past 18mo during those 18mo she left me six times, the last two for another person.  When I questioned it last time she said she would never be intimate with me, did not want to be friends and proceeded to tell me if I contacted her again she would file a restraining order. 

I left her alone. 

She came back a month later.

This time she dumped me after a bad weekend (I was down).  She didn't rage dump me.  She came over told me she loved me very much but we should see other people. 

I knew she had my replacement lined up. 

She told me this was good and we would be best friends.  I told her I was not going to be her back up plan for her new relationship. 

Fast forward a week and she has blocked all forms of communication with me, phone, email and FB.  She blocked FB last time but checked it and unblocked.  This is since November 4th. 

I am crushed.  Her final words were that I was untrustworthy, backstabbing and that she was gone forever.  She thought our entire relationship was ugly and had no good memories. 

This three weeks after crying saying she would always be there for me, loved me but wanted to be friends. 

In the past my replacement was LD this one is not, but she just lost her job which I am sure will stress my ex out.  I don't know what to expect.  I've become addicted to thinking it was over and it wasn't.  This time she gave me back all our pictures... .seemingly wiped me out of her life. 

I did have a mutual friend tell me my ex was putting all my stuff in a box to mail me and them later saw she put the box on her shelf in the closet. 

Do I have to even be concerned about a recycle attempt? She seemed to have a pattern. It was very bazarr. She would leave every three months and return exactly 37 days later. 

I just wonder because she cut me off and this is so different from the other times.

[Pretty Woman]

Hi All,

Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving. 

I need some insight. 

I dated a uBPD for the past 18mo during those 18mo she left me six times, the last two for another person.  When I questioned it last time she said she would never be intimate with me, did not want to be friends and proceeded to tell me if I contacted her again she would file a restraining order. 

I left her alone. 

She came back a month later.

This time she dumped me after a bad weekend (I was down).  She didn't rage dump me.  She came over told me she loved me very much but we should see other people. 

I knew she had my replacement lined up. 

She told me this was good and we would be best friends.  I told her I was not going to be her back up plan for her new relationship. 

Fast forward a week and she has blocked all forms of communication with me, phone, email and FB.  She blocked FB last time but checked it and unblocked.  This is since November 4th. 

I am crushed.  Her final words were that I was untrustworthy, backstabbing and that she was gone forever.  She thought our entire relationship was ugly and had no good memories. 

This three weeks after crying saying she would always be there for me, loved me but wanted to be friends. 

In the past my replacement was LD this one is not, but she just lost her job which I am sure will stress my ex out.  I don't know what to expect.  I've become addicted to thinking it was over and it wasn't.  This time she gave me back all our pictures... .seemingly wiped me out of her life. 

I did have a mutual friend tell me my ex was putting all my stuff in a box to mail me and them later saw she put the box on her shelf in the closet. 

Do I have to even be concerned about a recycle attempt? She seemed to have a pattern. It was very bazarr. She would leave every three months and return exactly 37 days later. 

I just wonder because she cut me off and this is so different from the other times.

[living in the past]

 Yes i did have a nice thanksgiving considering i am being ignored right now by friend wBPD, i no how hard this is for me as a friend about 18 months too,do i have any insight,well i am new here but i will try, i will deal with the word addicted,which i have become with this person, who i met in a 12 step group for smoking, this is harder than quiting smoking, but i am trying to use the same princibles,which for me is to try to live one day at a time and for me this is that day ,and for today she is not calling me i have to try to let go of the past and not think of what will be, i can do it if i believe i can, i believe you can too earth angel, and you have been though a lot more than me, if i just break it down to today i think i can make it to tonight a then be gratefull i have a nice warm bed to sleep in, i can do it so can you, good luck keep posting i have read your name here before.