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« Reply #3 on: December 05, 2013, 02:48:04 PM » |
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It was a very good video for raising awareness of the condition for people who are unfamiliar with BPD.
But as Waifed and Ironman said, we have (unfortunately) been there and have lost this uphill battle, and we have accepted the defeat, paid the price in full, and are now re-building lives and sanity for ourselves, WITHOUT the BPD.
Most of the loved ones of the BPD in the program were parents of the adult BPD's.
I know this is harsh, but I must say this:
As parents, they have NO CHOICE BUT to live with and deal with a BPD daughter.
However, as fellow survivors of BPD relationships, on the other hand, we get to CHOOSE to walk out of the (abusive, crazy-making) relationships/marriages because we have evaluated it to be a no-win situation.
And we, as individuals have the right to pursue a loving relationship in our adult life with an emotionally regulated person with whom to live.
Plus, I am sure the people who appeared on the program were not very representational of the real, big picture of how the majority of loved ones are often (mis)treated by persons with BPD.
Surely, it was easy for the likes of Gunderson, Kornberg, and Linehan to assure us that people with BPD could eventually recover.
But at what cost?
Apart from their parents, are the lives of their Non SO supposed to put their own lives on hold, walk on egg shells year after year WHILE HOPING that they will "recover" from their BPD?
The case of my uBPDexgf included, many of them do not even accept drug intervention nor will voluntarily participate in therapy.
So, yeah, it was an interesting video. But it only offered a glimmer of false hope that has died in me a long time ago.
I apologize if I sounded overly bitter or antagonistic. I have recently disengaged for good, and I am still under the effects of post-walking-out-to-save-my-own-sorry-___ kind of emotional anguish.
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