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State85
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The latest text from her said:
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January 15, 2014, 01:57:13 PM »
"And see, not one response from you... . "
anybody wanna weigh in on this?
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And see
State85, the other guy(easy mark) is not responding to me, so i am starting to re-idealize you, and I need desperately for you to respond, hopefully in a positive way but I will take a negative response, ANY response, so long as you respond so I do not feel so utterly ALONE. And you are supposed to respond to me and play along with the script that goes on in my head and not do this:
not one response from you... .
"
In bold is what she wrote to you. Everything else was what she really was saying. Narcissistic supply. Do not respond.
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Yep Ironman... . like a script.
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last time I was NC (admittedly before i eventually got back into the frying pan), she sent me a text saying...
"C'mon why won't you play the game? I thought you had more balls than this?"
VERY telling!
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It always makes me wonder what mine would say to me now if/when she tries to return. It probably wouldn't be that far off of what you and others on here have experienced. "I'm sorry" or "Hey" would probably be the vanguard of words used in a re-engagement attempt.
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I've gotten the "hey" before.
Single word, to the point... . I guess.
And when I didn't respond, I got what started this thread... .
And I guarantee she will want nothing, except to light into me again, and in the end say "I am your friend"
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Quote from: State85 on January 15, 2014, 02:20:02 PM
I've gotten the "hey" before.
Single word, to the point... . I guess.
And when I didn't respond, I got what started this thread... .
And I guarantee she will want nothing, except to light into me again, and in the end say "I am your friend"
Or worse. I have feelings for you again, "I love you."
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You might as well be getting text messages from an orangutan in the zoo, who's been lucky enough to procure himself a mobile phone for those lonely nights when the public have all gone home!
That is about as much credibility as these text messages have!
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Quote from: Moonie75 on January 15, 2014, 02:31:49 PM
You might as well be getting text messages from an orangutan in the zoo, who's been lucky enough to procure himself a mobile phone for those lonely nights when the public have all gone home!
That is about as much credibility as these text messages have!
i almost choked on my bottle of water as I read this.
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State85
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Quote from: Moonie75 on January 15, 2014, 02:31:49 PM
You might as well be getting text messages from an orangutan in the zoo, who's been lucky enough to procure himself a mobile phone for those lonely nights when the public have all gone home!
That is about as much credibility as these text messages have!
Excellent!
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Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 15, 2014, 02:17:11 PM
It always makes me wonder what mine would say to me now if/when she tries to return. It probably wouldn't be that far off of what you and others on here have experienced. "I'm sorry" or "Hey" would probably be the vanguard of words used in a re-engagement attempt.
"Hey"... . every time.
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Quote from: Waifed on January 15, 2014, 03:25:03 PM
Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 15, 2014, 02:17:11 PM
It always makes me wonder what mine would say to me now if/when she tries to return. It probably wouldn't be that far off of what you and others on here have experienced. "I'm sorry" or "Hey" would probably be the vanguard of words used in a re-engagement attempt.
"Hey"... . every time.
I am of the mind, that if such a thing occurred right now, if I were to respond, would be to tear her a new one. Such is my anger.
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Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 15, 2014, 03:33:41 PM
Quote from: Waifed on January 15, 2014, 03:25:03 PM
Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 15, 2014, 02:17:11 PM
It always makes me wonder what mine would say to me now if/when she tries to return. It probably wouldn't be that far off of what you and others on here have experienced. "I'm sorry" or "Hey" would probably be the vanguard of words used in a re-engagement attempt.
"Hey"... . every time.
I am of the mind, that if such a thing occurred right now, if I were to respond, would be to tear her a new one. Such is my anger.
Yeah, I agree I would have to respond because curiosity would get the best of me. I would hold back my anger. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction to know that I ever gave her a moment of thought since we stopped talking.
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Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 15, 2014, 03:33:41 PM
Quote from: Waifed on January 15, 2014, 03:25:03 PM
Quote from: Ironmanfalls on January 15, 2014, 02:17:11 PM
It always makes me wonder what mine would say to me now if/when she tries to return. It probably wouldn't be that far off of what you and others on here have experienced. "I'm sorry" or "Hey" would probably be the vanguard of words used in a re-engagement attempt.
"Hey"... . every time.
I am of the mind, that if such a thing occurred right now, if I were to respond, would be to tear her a new one. Such is my anger.
Followed by a text from her saying
"Ironman, That is exactly why I left, you obviously haven't changed!"
Maddening!
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I always get this after the breakup:
"Hey" "Im sad" "I miss you" "You are not talking" "Quiet?"
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Quote from: Moonie75 on January 15, 2014, 02:31:49 PM
You might as well be getting text messages from an orangutan in the zoo, who's been lucky enough to procure himself a mobile phone for those lonely nights when the public have all gone home!
That is about as much credibility as these text messages have!
Like I said Sadinc, like I said!
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