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NC uBPD Mom Cyber Stalking
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I was VLC with my uBPD mother then transitioned to NC. My transition to NC included an email which outlined why (generally I feel this relationship contributed to my anxiety) and that I needed continued and more space/time to heal before we could have a relationship again.
This is not the first time I have tried to create more space for myself and to date it is the most successful try because I have better learned how to set and stick to boundaries. Additionally my mother recently remarried so my timing could not be better.
While she has kind of respected my request for space this time she has not totally respected it. I have maintained no response no matter what. However over the weekend she began what seems to be kind of cyber stalking. Most notably she began leaving comments on work blog posts (topics unrelated to anything she knows). This is a problem!
Thankfully the post was not bad and I was able to delete it almost immediately but my career and profession are extremely important to me. This was stepping way over any boundary lines and I would prefer she not do this again. I was so annoyed I almost broke NC but did not as it would be positive reinforcement for a bad behavior.
Any suggestions or thoughts?
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This is annoying... . it seems to me that she is trying to provoke you into getting in contact with her. Sure its for her self satisfaction as well that she thinks she's 'keeping' something for herself. Reminds me of experiences with NPD I know. For me, I would sit and wait it out, in the hope she will get bored of this approach because its not working for her (ie, not getting your attention). Fingers crossed, SS x
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