Self defense-mechansim?

[Depression = 72% of members]

Hi all, I hope the New Year finds you happier and healthier! I just have a question - I am in the final stages of leaving my BPDbf. I found a job, it's temporary but will serve the purpose for now. I also borrowed a small amount of money and bought a very inexpensive car. I am moving on - but I do not feel love,hate or any strong emotion at all for SO. If he is around here during the weeknights or weekends - fine. If he isn't - fine. It doesn't seem to affect me either way. I don't know if I'm numb because the feelings I had weren't real or because my mind has decided I'm too fragile to deal with it or because I went through way too much to give a crap anymore. Has anyone else experienced this?

[belladella]

Hi all, I hope the New Year finds you happier and healthier! I just have a question - I am in the final stages of leaving my BPDbf. I found a job, it's temporary but will serve the purpose for now. I also borrowed a small amount of money and bought a very inexpensive car. I am moving on - but I do not feel love,hate or any strong emotion at all for SO. If he is around here during the weeknights or weekends - fine. If he isn't - fine. It doesn't seem to affect me either way. I don't know if I'm numb because the feelings I had weren't real or because my mind has decided I'm too fragile to deal with it or because I went through way too much to give a crap anymore. Has anyone else experienced this?

[love4meNOTu]

Yes, I was numb for four months.

Then the depression set it, it was more of a challenge.

Just be prepared, and have good resources for support, like a good T.

Try not to rely upon friends too much, you may alienate them when you hit (or if you hit) the downs.

L

[belladella]

Thank you love4menotu for the very good advice! As soon as I am out, I will prepare for the depression and find a good T. Also I had not consider the affect this will have on my friends should I rely on them too much - Thank you!