I made a pact of NC, and 24 hours later, she's at me 4 times in 2 hours

[Jayhawk21]

If you read my previous post you will know that my pwBPD and I after 3+yrs had what I would consider to be our last recycle. Things were said and done that can't be undone. I'm usually the one who comes back but this time at the urging of my T, and my friends, and this board I decided to NC her.

Well now this morning it's 1 iMessage and 2 short emails. She's mad bc I took back the $1000s of dollars in jewelry got for her. Right or wrong. When she would have major meltdowns over things and not be able to emotionally interact with me, to stop her in her tracks I would get her a piece of jewelry. Most of the time it worked. I could rationalize whatever the situation was out with her. However it got mighty expensive. Keep in mind last time we spoke she had one of them on.

  Here is her quote:

"Nice of you to steal my necklaces too you fvcking loser. Thats ok. They weren't worth sh!t, and they were ugly anyways. Make sure you give them to the next chic you screw over."

"Fvck giving your keys back. Look for them in the dumpster in my parking lot d!ckhead"

If they were ugly and worthless why keep them and wear them? They are keys. $2 at A hardware store to make.

This was followed up with a long email about how my character has caused her not want to be with me. Laughable. I'm greatest thing that ever happened to her. She didn't even barely go out of the house till me.

Now she has my number, and doesn't have an iPhone, only an itouch and iPad.

I see the level of manipulation here: I'm not going to call you or text you directly because I'm in control. Oh you didn't respond to my IMessage? Well I'm going to email you. But I won't text of call you because I'm still in control.

I'm not responding. But it's funny how when I make up my mind on NC 24 hours she on me trying to create chaos.

[arn131arn]

If ur lucky the chaos will stop. 6 weeks into NC I was served with a bogus restraining order. JuSt get into ur bunker, hunker down, and don't have any contact. Physically or electronically. It will get better but be careful. Some can be VERY dangerous

[Learning_curve74]

I know it sucks to get attacked in email and texts. NC stands for "No Contact" which means neither you contacting her, nor you receiving contact from her. You can set your email filter to automatically send her emails to trash and there are apps or a service to block her phone calls and texts.

Nothing she wrote is necessary for you to see. You can help aid in the process of detachment by removing her ability to contact you. You can go low contact if you still have legal things or children together. Good luck to you, Jayhawk21.

[Jayhawk21]

Last time she tried the cops it backfired on her and she got in trouble. So she knows better. She got off bc I refused to testify.

[santa]

You took the girls' jewelry back? Lol. Indian giver. 

That's pretty cold blooded, man.

[Jayhawk21]

A. She would just pawn it or thrown it out. (She's done it before).

B. If you only knew some of the things she's done to me you would get why I'm giving her a bit of her own medicine.

[fromheeltoheal]

As we know BPD goes in cycles, vulnerable seducer, clinger, hater, and those cycles speed up towards the end of the relationship, when there are no rules and the serious crazy shows up.  It's not surprising that she talked to you like that and then is trying to contact you again, the push/pull going into high gear, if you talked to her you might even find she's relating as if nothing happened; I found that one ridiculous even when I was still enmeshed with her.

Anyway, you were in a relationship with someone suffering from a personality disorder, and you can choose to stay enmeshed with that disorder or you can take the higher road and take care of you.  The only control you will get is the control you take back, she will never give any up, so it's time for a focus shift away from her and onto you and your future.