I had been with the uBPDex for a year which ended in mid-November. A few weeks ago her sister called me to try to get us back together with me while she was drunk. She told me she had been spending time with her ex. This put me in the FOG for a couple of weeks ago. I figured since she had attached herself to her ex I would try online dating for some interaction and who knows maybe meet someone. Big mistake, she was on the site! As stupid as this sounds but I thought this was an opportunity for a recycle. I called the sister to see if the BPDex still hated me. She confirmed that she did and asked me what I did to her. It was a simply just a little of name calling on my part because she did something to me in my sleep that made me cranky in the morning, plus I didn't apologize for a couple of days.
Her sister stated that her behavior and her drinking have gotten worse. Her sober sister told me I could do much better than the BPDex. I had thought what we had was real and she attached herself to the ex to fill the void left by my departure but the fact she is trying to replace the recycled ex while being attached to him has opened my eyes. She has a need that cannot be filled and if she finds something with potential, her illness will end it. It's funny how everyone's knowledge on the subject helps predict future behavior and make sense of illogical people. I read so many threads that you are just a person filling their needs but I was in denial. Thank you all for sharing your experiences.
I'm sorry NoCRV. You did what you had to do, what you felt was right. Denial is part of the process. Do you have any ideas in what you are going to do next for you, short of you meeting the needs of another empty person?
