she used me to give jealous his boyfriend

[afdezm]

Last Friday I had the misfortune to meet my exBPD and his current victim. After a month of NC . I was talking to her until the boyfriend began pushing me and tell me: go out. (never seen it before ) . I told him to calm down, but he kept until I punched him and he go directly to the ground. Very stupid guy really. I am peaceful, but the guy he was looking for.

Yesterday she was calling and texting me , I was so stupid to answer and talk to her all day. He said very nice words as I had been so special to her , blah blah.

And at night she  sends a message telling me that we can't speak more because she has had problems with her boyfriend for talking to me .

Is not the first time she do it , if she know there will be problems because I speak with her why you tell to your boyfriend bhit?  She only used me for to make his boyfriend jealous and fill her ego.

I not has hurt or surprised. But you think that now I can set the counter to 0 of NC ? I 'll have to go through the FOG again? I feel good now , but I do not know if it's because I received my dose of drug.

Thank your for your answers and sorry for my english.

[eclectic]

When I first started talking to my ex, of course she told me horror stories about her ex, and how bad he treated her, so I'm really feeling bad for her, and thinking this guy is a idiot.  One time me and her go out and eat, and she sees a car pull up, and I'm talking to her, and she is completely disengage, I say what, because she is looking out the window, she says I thought that was my ex, I never met the guy, so I look and ask is that him, she says no, I'm thinking what is the odds he would come here, same place and same time, she says, I talked to him earlier, and told him I would be here with you, I'm thinking what?  Not that I was worried it would be a problem or anything, I'm just thinking who does that, it's amazing how we ignore all the red flags, until you look back on it, any other person, I would have been done with, but I let her get away with so much, she had me in deep, !

[santa]

I don't see any reason to set the NC counter back to 0. Just pick up where you left off. This was just a minor setback. You aren't trying to re-engage. Just keep doing what you've been doing. This girl is clearly just looking for drama. No reason you should have to participate in it.