maxsterling
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« Reply #1 on: April 16, 2014, 11:00:12 AM » |
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ha! So similar... . The only way she will go to her own family functions is if I go. She claims they like me more than they like her. All I can suggest for you is when these things come up - if you want to go, tell her you are going. And if she wants to lie, tell her that you aren't comfortable doing that. I'm not sure how to phrase it in such a way she won't feel abandoned, but you can't let her control your social life. And I am one of those "do as I say, not as I do people", because I struggle with this, too.
That's interesting about the show, because similar situations have arisen in my r/s where we will see something like this, and she will say "I would take care of you if you got sick." And she will also make comments about having no family to take care of her, no kids, etc. The truth is, she *could* have that, but she keeps driving everyone away. The other day, we were on the way to her dad's house (a man she has mostly painted black) and she remarked how she wished he would give her money. Okay, a reasonable situation, I wonder if she would ask? She said he used to give her money - 750 a month - when she was in college about 20 years ago. And what did she do? Spent it on heroin while she lived mostly homeless. And that just makes me think - "gee, had she acted more responsibly, maybe he would be offering to help her out now, meanwhile, she is complaining that he is not supportive, and makes that his fault."
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