it´s been over a year and here´s how it is

[tomjon78]

After being away from the board for some time, i´m back.

I´ve been doing okay. For you who never seen my post I broke up with my uBPD january 2013 after a year of being together. It was the a hell of ride of recycling and many of the horrible things people are experiencing here. Our last contact was in last october.

I´ve been seeking a lot of therapy and my life is not the same after this. A lot of self looking and soul searching and working on things. I´ve been living the simple life since then. Working out, concentrating on my family and wellbeing and a lot of progress has been made.

Last november she met her current boyfriend. They are now expecting a baby next september. They are moving to a big house even thought she is financially not strong-guess he´s paying. Nevermind that. Wish them all the best, even though I guess he´s in for a hell of a ride.

The thing that is troubling me is first of all that she managed to get some serious amounts of money from me. At first she told me she would pay me back and later she told me she wouldn´t pay me a dime.

I´m thinking of getting a lawyer to help me. I need the money for myself. My T. is not sure about making this kind of contact and that could be dangerous.

She has told a lot of lies about me. That I have mistreated her, abused her and so on... . it´s so not true but this hurts. She is moving in a dream house while my savings went to her pocket. My mistake at that time I know.

What do you think about this situation?

[trappedinlove]

Tomjon,

It seems to me that the right thing for you to do is let go and move on with your life.

Forget about the money and the insults and forget about her and her life.

Let her live her new life peacefully and live yours without her being present in your thoughts or emotions.

Think about the money you gave her then as money you pay for therapy, payment you have to make for your own well being.