Thoughts?

[qwaszx]

Hey,

I was just having this strange revelation, when my BPD friend used to get into bad relationships, while we were really close, she would tell me, "that she felt sorry for them and that she just wanted to save them, and that she should be able to not let what they do effect her emotions" anyways I used to say to her, "u can't save them, they are to much for you, to damaged as individuals, that there was nothing she could do for them, and that they would have to change themselves, I would tell her that's why ur mind is racing, and ur panicking, that is ur body is trying to tell u to take care or yourself, I would chop it up to them being a bad person, I would tell her that she can't beat them at there own game, because they hold the play book, everyone loses, and that she doesn't control them" I would tell her that the only way to win is to stop playing there game.

My revelation tonight was this, I'm always like I'm going to learn to be emotionally strong enough that she does not bothers me, including leaving... It's this a bad thing that I started to think I wanted to be strong enough to have her not effect me. I started trying to beat her at her own game, which isn't possible. Why didn't this click b4?

[tiredndown]

Sometimes things are more easily seen from outside. It's is good that you realized this. Up until your revelation I was wondering if you were doing the same with her.