Gaslighting

[peiper]

I think my first step in healing is to get into reality and except all her gaslighting was BS. I still buy some of it for some reason. She was so damn good making me feel like I was the only problem with us. This site helps so much to see thing as they really were. Thanks

[sherlock3]

I once said to my BPDxgf: "what, are you trying to gaslight me". She asked, what does that mean? I told her. The next day she said she read on line what gaslighting was and said that's very interesting. She turned it around and said I was gaslighting her. What an a hole.

[peiper]

Sounds about right, mine always turned things around to me.

[Panda39]

She turned it around and said I was gaslighting her. What an a hole.

Projection much 

[AwakenedOne]

She turned it around and said I was gaslighting her. What an a hole.

   

[peiper]

Mine had me so down I thought I was a bad person. Im not, I have something she doesnt its called empathy for another. When we first got together she told me about her childhood (which was pretty bad) and I told her about mine. Which really sucked. Her response was get over it everone had a crappy childhood. That was a red flag. I ignored it.

[peiper]

Tred and tried to have a converstion with her but it always went in crazy circles so I gave up.

[going places]

I have PTSD because of what my ex did to me... .and he STILL gaslights me knowing that what he says and does will trigger me. It is cruel.

[sherlock3]

The most frustrating thing for me was going round and round with her. I'd comment on something she did or said that made no sense and was cruel or manipulative and she would turn it on me. Sometimes I would just straight out say, "what's happening right now" - pointing out that something very bizarre is occuring.  I actually thought that would make her stop and think. Usually it only caused her to say something like, "but you can see why I would do something like that".   "NO?"