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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Author Topic: really? the smear campaign continues after 3 yrs?  (Read 366 times)
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« on: July 26, 2014, 01:13:24 PM »

I hear from people periodically about my exBPD who still tells anyone and everyone that he comes in contact with the most outrageous lies about me. I understand that he cant take any responsibility, but we are talking complete strangers that he

corners and convinces them of things about his ex wife (me) that are not true.

Word sometimes gets back to me about these incidents, but since I strictly maintain no contact with him, I am wondering if he still does this in the hopes that I will hear about it and respond somehow?

Or is this just something that a BPD person does for the rest of their life after you 'abandon' them?

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« Reply #1 on: July 26, 2014, 01:42:42 PM »

I used to have a boss -- a guy who I never trusted and never liked.   He ended up getting fired from the company for watching porn on his work computer and, since then, he always badmouths the company and everything associated with it. 

No one I know pays any attention to him or his rants.  Everyone knows that he can't accept what happened (and how he caused it).  He is so clearly dissociated from his actions that, in his mind, the cause of his firing "must" be outside of himself. 

A smear campaign -- especially after three years -- is NOT about you.  It hurts, for sure.  But it's not about you.
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« Reply #2 on: July 26, 2014, 01:58:50 PM »

Thank you, LettingGo14.

I guess I knew that, but it feels better when you hear someone else confirm it.

Blessings!

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