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Been married for one and a half years and it been a constant roller coaster.  Two abortions. Lots of unneccasry drama. A couple different therapists.

Last Monday I walked out of apartment after having enough drama with my uBPDw. She wasn't home and I didn't go back. Previously we fought I went to a friends and she blew up my phone and about 5 others looking for me to go back.

Saw an attorney on Wed. got the paperwork going on filings etc. Also have a standing life coach on Wed nights.  Decided that the next day was going to be the day and the life coach and I went through all possible curve balls she could have thrown.


Thursday morning was an appointment with a new therapist.  I told the therapists that this session was going to be it for me, I am done with this relationship.  She was on board and understood.

Armed with my "script" I told her that I am done. My decision is final and so on.  She started to cry. She said she was shocked.  I kept my ground. Knowing she would put up a fight.

After I unloaded, she was still shocked.  Then she said I was a fraud and liar and had duped her from the beginning.  She never wanted to see me ever again and out of her life.  I agree to let her stay in our apartment till the end of next month. 

I left that office relieved while she was crying. Get on a plane and go away till Sunday.  Family and friends all support my decision.

She hasn't tried to contact me at all, which is very weird. We had one joint savings account that I wentto check the balance on today a d she cleared it out that same Thursday.  After getting that shocker, I got served with divorce papers today.

I am free of her and her family, but not completely.

[bajaloverz]

Been married for one and a half years and it been a constant roller coaster.  Two abortions. Lots of unneccasry drama. A couple different therapists.

Last Monday I walked out of apartment after having enough drama with my uBPDw. She wasn't home and I didn't go back. Previously we fought I went to a friends and she blew up my phone and about 5 others looking for me to go back.

Saw an attorney on Wed. got the paperwork going on filings etc. Also have a standing life coach on Wed nights.  Decided that the next day was going to be the day and the life coach and I went through all possible curve balls she could have thrown.


Thursday morning was an appointment with a new therapist.  I told the therapists that this session was going to be it for me, I am done with this relationship.  She was on board and understood.

Armed with my "script" I told her that I am done. My decision is final and so on.  She started to cry. She said she was shocked.  I kept my ground. Knowing she would put up a fight.

After I unloaded, she was still shocked.  Then she said I was a fraud and liar and had duped her from the beginning.  She never wanted to see me ever again and out of her life.  I agree to let her stay in our apartment till the end of next month. 

I left that office relieved while she was crying. Get on a plane and go away till Sunday.  Family and friends all support my decision.

She hasn't tried to contact me at all, which is very weird. We had one joint savings account that I wentto check the balance on today a d she cleared it out that same Thursday.  After getting that shocker, I got served with divorce papers today.

I am free of her and her family, but not completely.

[Trent]

I'm sorry you have to go through this.  However, it sounds like you're well on your way forward, so congrats!  Keep us updated 

[Lucky Jim]

Hey baja, Suggest you keep your eye on the ball, i.e., a happier future, without the drama.  In the meantime, you are likely to travel through some rough emotional waters, so be prepared for zigs and zags, which are fine as long as you are moving forward towards your goal.  LJ

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She hasn't tried to contact me at all, which is very weird. We had one joint savings account that I wentto check the balance on today a d she cleared it out that same Thursday.  After getting that shocker, I got served with divorce papers today.

I had an account cleared out too - but I was the one who filed after that quickly.  Document everything and check credit card statements often.

Glad you have a T and a supportive family.  I strongly suggest reading Splitting by Bill Eddy to help navigate the legal system and how it is a virtual playground for people with PD's.  Make sure you and your attorney are prepared completely.  The legal board here is an amazing resource - please use it.

Hang in there,

SB