Helloo! I’m new here and am a 20-something year old female with a BPD sister who is only 1.5 years older. She lives on the opposite coast as of a couple months ago. I’ll preface by saying I love and care about her soo, soo much. She can be an amazing person, friend, and sister, but I have to be honest: growing up with her and her verbal and emotional abuse toward me, my parents, and her friends/boyfriends had a very negative effect on me (all of us).
Particularly in high school, she took out most of her frustrations, negative self-image, bad decision consequences, etc. on me. Luckily, I had great friends and a good support system so I got through it (barely), but sometimes I think about how life could have been for me if I were, say, having problems in school, or with friends, or my love life, etc... It would have been a LOT for me to handle among living with my sister’s behavior (those years are stressful!).
So (I’m not a writer AT ALL), a few years ago when I was in college I thought it might be therapeutic to write a short story about negative effects on someone with a BPD sibling. I wrote a very dark story about a high school boy with a (undiagnosed) BPD older brother, so naturally (since I can’t say I know first-hand about BPD high school males) I used a bit of artistic license. I tried to make it kind of parallel to my sister, though.
It’s reeeally dark, it has a lot of inappropriate stuff/cursing, and I didn’t know how to end it (or title it) so I never shared it with anyone. Found it recently and re-read it and decided to share in case anyone in this community is interested. Anyone have a similar BPD sibling situation? Would love to hear about it.
I put it on tumblr - let me know what you think:
www.fall-BPD.tumblr.com/ 
