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Coral
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« on: September 20, 2014, 03:46:43 PM »

My BPD sister is in full witch mood.  It's been a very long time since I've seen the witch and I'm out of practice.  I KNOW I haven't done anything wrong yet, I'm searching for ways to make it better.  Her children are old hands at this and are comforting me.  If this isn't whacked, ice cream won't melt in sunlight.

My BPD sister doesn't rage at me; she drips acid on each word which is filled with innuendo. Such crooked conversations.  And she smears me to her children.  Thank God they don't buy in.

I feel so vulnerable.
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« Reply #1 on: September 20, 2014, 04:32:52 PM »

I'm so sorry to hear that your sister is making you so uncomfortable and unhappy.  I can relate to this because when my BPD mom goes on one of her tirades it just splits my heart wide open and takes a day or two for me to get back to normal and get all of her junk out of my head.  I'm sorry I don't have any advice.  I just wanted to send you a sympathy hug and comment    Glad to hear her kids understand and stay on your side.
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« Reply #2 on: September 20, 2014, 04:42:09 PM »

Hi Coral.  I am sorry your sister is giving you such a hard time.  I imagine it must be especially difficult after having had a break from it all.  I am not sure what advice to offer other than to walk away or hang up and do something that makes you happy.  Posting here is a good thing too, so I am glad you did.  We can all relate.

Though I am sure you know, just remember, this is not about you and it never was.  She can't even see you right now. *AND* you have proof in that her kids are taking care of you!  Take comfort in that.  Clearly they can see you despite her poison 
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« Reply #3 on: September 20, 2014, 06:51:41 PM »

Oh, Harri and Jmanvo, Thank you for your kind words... .a cool oasis in this desert.   

Her kids are so special to me.  I should've kidnapped them years ago.

Again, thank you.
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« Reply #4 on: September 20, 2014, 08:13:29 PM »

Hi Coral,

I am sorry this is going on with you. Sending hugs. As others have said, it isn't you. She likely hates herself over something and is projecting it on to you. It will pass. Don't give her any ammo by reacting. It's what she wants.
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