Guys and Gals,
Just a useful excercise to do, especially for those of you who still wonder if your BPDex is better off than you etc. after the relationship (Let's do this together) - Compare your truths to your exBPD's lies and you might see a completely new picture. I'll start:
- She was a good girlfriend who was exciting and great in bed. Lie;
- I treated her like gold and got NOTHING in return. Fact;
- She is happy with her new guy/guys/whatever. Lie;
- I'm better off without her. Fact;
- She is steady in her work and personal relationships and has many friends. Lie;
- I am employed as a manager in one of the largest investment banks in the world and have a fantastic family life with many friends whom I've known for MANY years. Fact;
- She has a squeaky clean past with nothing to hide. Lie;
- I have nothing to hide and am proud of my past. Fact;
- She came out of the relationship better than me. Fact;
- I came out of the mourning phase better than her just after the relationship. Fact;
- She is so much better than what she was with me. Lie;
- I look better than what I did then, am more mature, grounded and a better guy for any girl over all. Fact;
- She is going to make someone very happy one day. Lie;
- I am going to make someone very happy one day. Fact;
Now, does the picture look different to you?
I'm a tad confused. So do we do this too? Or does this list generally just relate to all of us?
