How to tell a child he has asperger's?

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My S10 was diagnosed with Asperger's tow years ago.  He continues to go to counseling for behavioral issues and according to ex, is asking why he has to do these things.   I was resistant some time ago to letting him know about his diagnosis, but, now, I think we have to fess up and talk to him about it.  I'm uncomfortable with ex having this conversation with him and turning it around into a needy "me" conversation for her.

I'm taking him in for a re-eval tomorrow and will have time alone with him, so curious about how to go about this talk.

[scraps66]

My S10 was diagnosed with Asperger's tow years ago.  He continues to go to counseling for behavioral issues and according to ex, is asking why he has to do these things.   I was resistant some time ago to letting him know about his diagnosis, but, now, I think we have to fess up and talk to him about it.  I'm uncomfortable with ex having this conversation with him and turning it around into a needy "me" conversation for her.

I'm taking him in for a re-eval tomorrow and will have time alone with him, so curious about how to go about this talk.

[Turkish]

What does the counselor say?

[david]

Talking to the counselor first is a great idea. Having a good plan that is tailored for your son takes a lot of understanding on your part. Get as much info, if you haven't already, about aspergers. Where is he in the spectrum, what things have you found that help him, what things haven't you tried that may be helpful, etc.