recycle experience

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

I guess for the sake of curiousity id like to know what some of the other members experiences with recycling. I dont care how successful it was . my ex and I have had limited contact since we split. Found out she already had someone else and that she was hiding it from me and to extent still is. Anytime we spoke after I confronted her she was nasty... Leave me alone ... don't text me. This last time a Lil over a week ago I broke nc to ask about a dog we adopted together. I was actually well put together didn't ask about her ... the kids she has... the new guy or anything involving us. It was only about the dog. And she began asking me about  a job I might get out west I mentioned before ... and if I reconciled with my estranged wife and mentioned she had been looking at my Facebook ... why in ur opinions/ experiences would she care? I haven't heard from her since and people I have spoken to seem to think things maybe starting to crack in the new relationship they have been together at least four months now and moved in together after 2... any input is greatly appreciated

[emancipated]

I guess for the sake of curiousity id like to know what some of the other members experiences with recycling. I dont care how successful it was . my ex and I have had limited contact since we split. Found out she already had someone else and that she was hiding it from me and to extent still is. Anytime we spoke after I confronted her she was nasty... Leave me alone ... don't text me. This last time a Lil over a week ago I broke nc to ask about a dog we adopted together. I was actually well put together didn't ask about her ... the kids she has... the new guy or anything involving us. It was only about the dog. And she began asking me about  a job I might get out west I mentioned before ... and if I reconciled with my estranged wife and mentioned she had been looking at my Facebook ... why in ur opinions/ experiences would she care? I haven't heard from her since and people I have spoken to seem to think things maybe starting to crack in the new relationship they have been together at least four months now and moved in together after 2... any input is greatly appreciated

[BrokenFamily]

It is very likely that the same troubles you had in your relationship will eventually or have already presented themselves in her new relationship. I can only assume since you are asking about recycling, you are hoping or considering the possibility of getting back with her. Would you take her back and forgive her cheating, would you hope or believe she wouldn't cheat again? There's are all questions you should consider.

[emancipated]

Thanks for ur response... I know what's common about borderlines and having someone lined up already.so to be candid I don't really want her back i know she is not the woman i fell in love with and no i couldn't trust her again. However I miss the kids and some of the life I had. Did she cheat probably... And nc contact has been helpful but there are times I can't help but wonder... Not hope but wonder if she will try again or if she really meant it when she said she's done for good... I'm confident the same problems will arise just with someone with a lot less patience me and my white horse are staying out unless the kids are hurt i almost adopted them so in many ways they became mine and that is one of the bigger struggles remaining its easy for Me to remember her bad. And tomorrow was the 1 year anniversary of me having a nervous breakdown and nearly committing suicide and if it wasn't for the responsibility I felt to her and the kids I likely would have done it. Most.days it gets easier and i didn't know if these signs she is showing were self serving and I didn't bite or is there trouble in paradise and I'm beginning to look less bad and that she could be preparing for an attempt. Just wanted.to see if there was any other situations close because so many of us share the same idealization... Black painting... cheated on . she is no longer my angel she is the devil behind brown eyes I know that . just want to be prepared if the wolf returns to try and prey on me again

[BrokenFamily]

I'm in a very similar situation as we all are, my ex of 4 years left me and our 16 month old daughter. It was maybe or maybe not for another man without warnging , I was depressed crying on and had suicidal thoughts on a  daily basis. The two things that have helped me keep my sanity are my daughter and the knowledge that if she ever did return it would be the same nonsense and pain all over again. Our relationship was very good at times, we had a beautiful daughter and I'll always have fond memories but I can not allow her moods and behavior to negatively effect me in such a negative way anymore. It's become even more difficult because even know her relationship is only two months old they have broken up two times and I'm the first one she calls for a ride from his house, and I do. Fortunately she still hasn't given me any hope we'll ever be back together and I'm content just being civil for our daughter. Loving someone with BPD is difficult, painful and a one way ticket to destroying your life. I love her but I can not allow her to ruin my or my daughters life so