How does she say you've hurt her in the past?
for what does she think she has to forgive you, 4BVM?
It varies but here have been some of the recent ones. They focus on distrust a lot of them:
*talking to my family (which was once every couple weeks before I caved to her request not to talk. I Don't talk to them now and feel nervous to do so as it causes a lot of grief in the house). She talks to her family every couple weeks without any hesitation.
*learning about something/someone from a facebook post. Feels threatened when I use social media. Not on it much but do use it for my job as I am sales for marketing. Although she is on pininterst all the time. I let her know that is fine with me if she enjoys that. But she says I can't be trusted on that.
*going to my 25th class reunion. She was raging that night and said I should not have gone. She brought that up last week and i went 1 year ago. She felt I was going there to see an old girlfriend
*raising my voice when arguing. Although she says she is loud and that is the way she was born. But I don't have that excuse.
*locking the door when I go the bathroom. We have 7 kids so sometimes that is the only privacy. Sometimes I keep it locked when she is angry with me also. She thinks I am emailing someone.
*Reading an email on my phone. She feels that I have another relationship with someone.
*Leaving the house when she is upset or when I get upset. Thinks again I have a relationship with someone else.
This trust first broke down in a very significant way when I told her (in duress) ~2 years ago that I would not talk to my family anymore- at her threats to Divorce me. However, I did maintain contact with them. I later told her that I was communicating with them and she became extremely upset.
I then went back again to saying will stop contact with them and did almost 6 months (Until a few days ago when she said she gave the ring back)
