Ex cheated on me a month ago after 3 year relationship. I was living with her at the time but moved out due to the affair. 8 days NC then she texts me saying I am better off without her. She says there is so much darkness in her. She says she can't stop thinking about me. The last text said she still wanted me and that she still needed me. Guessing she is trying to string me along. Any thoughts?
3 year relationship.
Living together.
Sex with another man while in a 3 year relationship with you, living with you.
Meaning she came home, looked you in the eye after having sex with another man... .
Meaning she came home, sat on the couch, laid in the bed, showered in the shower, possibly had sex with you; AFTER HAVING SEX with another man.
Who cares what she is thinking.
SHE didn't care what you would think while she was with another man.
SHE didn't care if she contracted a disease and PASSED IT ALONG TO YOU.
SHE didn't care if it would break your heart that she was unfaithful to you.
SHE DIDN'T CARE... .and it shows; because she had sex with another man, while in a "committed" relationship w you!
So why should you care now?
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice? Shame on me / Thanks for the STD that never goes away / HIV-AIDS that can kill me, etc... .
The mask fell.
You now see who you are REALLY dealing with.
YOU WILL NEVER EVER fully trust again. It will ALWAYS be compromised.
Your choices from here on out are just that... .your choices.
Make sure you can live in peace with those choices.