What ways did they hide cheating?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Yup, check, check,check! My ex BPDbf also made a BIG deal about liars and cheaters. He went so far as to tell me how his ex gf cheated on him. He saw a text on her cell phone whilst she was in the shower. He supposedly curled up in a ball in the bed and cried. While telling me the story he had crocodile tears in his eyes! Unbeleivable!

He told me about his best friend cheating on his GF and raised his voice telling the tale like he was soo appaled and how he was adamantly against cheating! He had me fooled into thinking he was a good guy.

During our 4 years together I think I physically saw his cell flip phone 4 or 5 times! It was "always" hidden in his pocket or his car when he stayed at my place. He accused me once of cheating with a male friend. I handed him my cell phone (smartphone) and said I can show you how to check texts, email and the call log. He looked down very ashamed. I then said, where's your phone? While your checking mine I'd like to see yours as well. He responded that he was sorry he doubted me and it wasn't necessary and changed the subject.

I was never introduced to his sons. Only met 2 of his 7 sibs. He was close to 2 of his sisters and often went to the shore to stay with them on Holiday weekends. I was invited, but he "always" cancelled at the last minute. I was invited to his nephews wedding out of state over a 3 day holiday weekend. I bought a dress, shoes and booked a hotel room. He cancelled the day prior claiming no "dates" allowed. He didn't want me to meet his family, because they a) knew nothing about me after 4 years together and b) because they new all of his secrets.

He made frequent trips to the bathroom and I suggested he see a doctor for a UTI or BPH. He would laugh or say he drank a lot before. I beleive he was going into the bathroom to text other women!

[RedDove]

Yup, check, check,check! My ex BPDbf also made a BIG deal about liars and cheaters. He went so far as to tell me how his ex gf cheated on him. He saw a text on her cell phone whilst she was in the shower. He supposedly curled up in a ball in the bed and cried. While telling me the story he had crocodile tears in his eyes! Unbeleivable!

He told me about his best friend cheating on his GF and raised his voice telling the tale like he was soo appaled and how he was adamantly against cheating! He had me fooled into thinking he was a good guy.

During our 4 years together I think I physically saw his cell flip phone 4 or 5 times! It was "always" hidden in his pocket or his car when he stayed at my place. He accused me once of cheating with a male friend. I handed him my cell phone (smartphone) and said I can show you how to check texts, email and the call log. He looked down very ashamed. I then said, where's your phone? While your checking mine I'd like to see yours as well. He responded that he was sorry he doubted me and it wasn't necessary and changed the subject.

I was never introduced to his sons. Only met 2 of his 7 sibs. He was close to 2 of his sisters and often went to the shore to stay with them on Holiday weekends. I was invited, but he "always" cancelled at the last minute. I was invited to his nephews wedding out of state over a 3 day holiday weekend. I bought a dress, shoes and booked a hotel room. He cancelled the day prior claiming no "dates" allowed. He didn't want me to meet his family, because they a) knew nothing about me after 4 years together and b) because they new all of his secrets.

He made frequent trips to the bathroom and I suggested he see a doctor for a UTI or BPH. He would laugh or say he drank a lot before. I beleive he was going into the bathroom to text other women!

[clydegriffith]

Yup, check, check,check! My ex BPDbf also made a BIG deal about liars and cheaters. He went so far as to tell me how his ex gf cheated on him. He saw a text on her cell phone whilst she was in the shower. He supposedly curled up in a ball in the bed and cried. While telling me the story he had crocodile tears in his eyes! Unbeleivable!

He told me about his best friend cheating on his GF and raised his voice telling the tale like he was soo appaled and how he was adamantly against cheating! He had me fooled into thinking he was a good guy.

During our 4 years together I think I physically saw his cell flip phone 4 or 5 times! It was "always" hidden in his pocket or his car when he stayed at my place. He accused me once of cheating with a male friend. I handed him my cell phone (smartphone) and said I can show you how to check texts, email and the call log. He looked down very ashamed. I then said, where's your phone? While your checking mine I'd like to see yours as well. He responded that he was sorry he doubted me and it wasn't necessary and changed the subject.

I was never introduced to his sons. Only met 2 of his 7 sibs. He was close to 2 of his sisters and often went to the shore to stay with them on Holiday weekends. I was invited, but he "always" cancelled at the last minute. I was invited to his nephews wedding out of state over a 3 day holiday weekend. I bought a dress, shoes and booked a hotel room. He cancelled the day prior claiming no "dates" allowed. He didn't want me to meet his family, because they a) knew nothing about me after 4 years together and b) because they new all of his secrets.

He made frequent trips to the bathroom and I suggested he see a doctor for a UTI or BPH. He would laugh or say he drank a lot before. I beleive he was going into the bathroom to text other women!

LOOL! I also received an academy award worthy performance when she described how she found out about the guy i replaced cheating on her, how her HS boyfriend cheated on her with her cousin and how she was raped by a classmate in HS. All turned out to be lies.

[RisingSun]

Hide it? Mine didn't hide it. She was telling me about her new "friend" every chance she got. After a few weeks of hearing about him I realized he wasn't "just a friend".

I then confronted her about this new friend. I told her I was no longer comfortable with her spending time with him. That's when the real craziness started.

She decided we needed to open up our marriage. When I refused she said I was controlling!

I said someone's got to have some control here because you've obviously lost yours. That didn't go over well, as you can imagine

And the cycle continued for the next month until the dam burst on lake insanity.

You can easily imagine how this whole thing ended. She's now off with replacement and I'm left alone trying to clean up her mess. Fill in the blanks with all the typical BPD behavior you've read about. They're all so predictable