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I wondered if there were many people on here who are still turned on by their exs. Despite all the bad treatment, mind games, push pull, lies, gas lighting and so on. I'd so, how long does this last?
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Oh yeah , it last as long you want it to last sometimes going through the process after the shock is painful you have to go through it all in order to get better finally after 5 months LC now 5 days in NC guess what I am not going to text her but you can rest assure I want her to text me see how toxic it is worth than quitting nicotine .
Hang in there buddy it has to get better with time . Just try to accept when she tells you it's over hard but do you have a choice ?
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I still sometimes think of all the crazy sex we used to have but that's about it. She's gained a considerable amount of weight since b/u so not really turned on by how she's looking now.
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About as turned on as a head on collision would get me.
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Yes still turned on. She is stunning . but she is so in denial abt herself n events n things she done. She ruined some many lifes no friends to speak of n if she does it just to craft the trap for the next guy like she did to me going to church n donating time etc. That all ended in 6 months. I am slowly get over it but,, I keep touching the hot stove n that's makes it worst n longer.
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Yes, it sort of makes me sick to say it. But, when he was good he was very, very good and when he was bad well, his anger and how he treated me really makes me change my mind. I know the memories of how it USE TO BE turn me on. It was bad for months before the b/u.
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