Thought he had given up He didn't

[Dolly rocker]

So I found someone else. It's early days, but so far so good!

Me and the new guy went on a little weekend break together and I (on purpose) plastered my facebook wall with pictures of my new beau.

My exBPDbf kicked off and started sending ME nasty msgs. So I blocked his email again and posted a rant on my face book saying I was fed up with all the stalking.

ExBpd seemed to have taken real ofense with my post and let me be for a whole month! Heaven! No more anxiety, no more bitterness, no worries and no more pain... .That was until yesterday. When he called me up as "no caller ID". I thought it could be a call from work and answered only to hear him crying on the other side. I hung up and turned my phone off. I'm furious now. Feels like I will never again lead a normal life. I'll constantly worry about him stalking me, even in about 20 years time.

Just sick of it!

Have you guys been in a similar situation? If so, what's the best thing to do in order to  get them to go for good?

I'm really low today! Feels like I can't move on!

[Dolly rocker]

I published my pics on facebook on purpose because I wanted him to see that we were through! The only way I could get him to understand it is over was by making him physically see the pics. Which did work for a while!

[Perfidy]

The sooner we can not produce reactions the less we will have to worry. It would seem as though the hornets aren't so aggressive when I don't smack their nest with a stick.

[guy4caligirl]

So I found someone else. It's early days, but so far so good!

Me and the new guy went on a little weekend break together and I (on purpose) plastered my facebook wall with pictures of my new beau.

My exBPDbf kicked off and started sending ME nasty msgs. So I blocked his email again and posted a rant on my face book saying I was fed up with all the stalking.

ExBpd seemed to have taken real ofense with my post and let me be for a whole month! Heaven! No more anxiety, no more bitterness, no worries and no more pain... .That was until yesterday. When he called me up as "no caller ID". I thought it could be a call from work and answered only to hear him crying on the other side. I hung up and turned my phone off. I'm furious now. Feels like I will never again lead a normal life. I'll constantly worry about him stalking me, even in about 20 years time.

Just sick of it!



Have you guys been in a similar situation? If so, what's the best thing to do in order to  get them to go for good?

I'm really low today! Feels like I can't move on!

I know it's not the time but we all here or most of us want to hear from them crying regretting you are on the opposite side must real easy to deal with call the police .

Or Do you want him back ?

[Dolly rocker]

I've already contacted the police, they don't think he's a threat just a nuisance.

I don't want him back. I just want to be left alone.

I just wanna to know if it's likely to be like this for the rest of my life! That's all!

[ghoststory]

a few years ago (before I even knew what Bpd was) I had a friend who said some awful things to me during a dinner with friends out of the blue, I told her I was upset with her and left only to be bothered endlessly phone calls ,facebook, I even told her I'll get over it I'm just taking some time away didn't stop it i went nc only to have her fake a fb account just to friend me ,,i do stand up and she would show up to shows just to call me an ass in a room of people luckily i was able to make a joke about it actually helped the performance (haha) anyway it declined a lot after the first month to an occasional try to reconnect that i ignored ,,however her friend informed me she asked if she could use her fb page to explain it that the insults were from her and said she had no idea about the craziness she is capable of ,,so i would say just stay nc it will go away probably when a new source comes into play but just keep a cautious eye on phone and media but not to the point of paranoia ,,

funny disease though my new BPD problem is opposite she paints me black and never contacts me just starts talking normally at work to me like strangeness never happened ,,she is very attractive so sources and attention are easier for her , easier to hold that kind of friendship ,

you deserve to have peace in your life stay nc if by accident you encounter him be firm in your tone to leave me be without showing anger and peace will come ,,sorry this is happening to you ,,stay strong

[Panda39]

The sooner we can not produce reactions the less we will have to worry. It would seem as though the hornets aren't so aggressive when I don't smack their nest with a stick.

Yep, you definitely smacked the nest with a stick   

Stop engaging with him... .stop feeding the drama... .eventually he will find someone new to play with.