
Yes... .I am in a similar situation.
I found out about BPD and that book you mentioned "WOE"... .about a year ago. I'm at 20 years in my marriage.
Learning about BPD traits and tools on this site has been a big part of changing my life and my r/s (relationship) for the better.
I'll also say that PTSD can sometimes present with BPD like symptions... .and vice versa.
So... .I'm glad you are here... .we can help.
Please give us more information on your relationship and some of the parts of that relationship that are bothering you.
Look to the right side of the screen. See "the lessons"... .please start reading... .asking questions on the staying board.
We can help you!