BPDSis just showed up at my work

[sisterofbpd]

I really don't know what to do about this.  She has never done this before.  She showed up at my work, looking all disheveled, smelling of cigarettes and weed and requested to see me. 

Immediately my heart started pounding.  The last contact I had with her was a hate email (completely unprovoked) telling me to move out of state, I won't be missed.  Lose her address, phone number, she is dead to me, etc. (I have not contacted her at all!)

I took her into the area with the outside door because I was not going to have her making a scene at my work.  I looked at her and said "What do you want?"  She tells me her life is in danger and that her neighbor is harassing her.  She handed me a bunch of papers that smelled as bad as she does, and I haven't even been able to look at them all yet.  Then tells me I can tell my Dad if I want, I'm good at that. 

What do I do?  I do not EVER want her to show up at my work again.  I honestly don't know what to make of this.  As far as her life being in danger, I highly doubt that.  She constantly gets involved with shady people and then tells me how terrified she is for her life.  This is a continuing issue she has had.  Also, I don't think I'm going to tell my parents, that is what she wants and why should I ruin their Christmas after she told my Mom to take a dirt nap.

Any advice is welcome.

[Anna Butterfly]

Yikes!  Do you have security at your work?  Or anyone at the front desk?  To prevent future incidents, you could alert them with her description and they can head her off with a simple "sister of BPD can't be reached right now".  I remember your previous posts about her delusional and dangerous behavior, is she acting like that again?  Showing up at your work reeking of drugs and trying to get you involved whatever is (or isn't) going on with her sounds scary to me.  I think you're wise not to involve your parents.

Stay safe!

-Anna

[sisterofbpd]

Thanks Annabutterfly

Yeah, I don't like this one bit. I work for a small company so we don't have security, but we do have a receptionist who isn't always at her desk and I cover for her a lot. I did tell her that if she shows up again, that I am unavailable.

I'm very low contact with her. Basically she sends me nasty text messages and emails and I don't respond. She certainly seems to be acting all delusional again.

It's hard cause for years, me, my brother and my parents have tried so hard to get her the help that she needs. With her nastiness, I have just been at the end of my rope with her and I just want her to leave me alone, does that make me a horrible person?

I finally read over her papers and they are detailed with tales of how this neighbor is harassing her and being dangerous. The weird thing is, it was just like she was describing herself.

A couple years ago she said this neighbor that she was sleeping with, drugged her and resulted in her getting mentally hygiene arrested.

This time, this woman framed her causing the police to break into her apartment and taze her while she was in the shower and then threaten to rape her.

This whole thing is just disturbing.

[losthero]

Just a suggestion but you might want to look up schizoaffective disorder.  A lot of times BPD is comormid with other diagnoses.  Be safe.

[sisterofbpd]

Just a suggestion but you might want to look up schizoaffective disorder.  A lot of times BPD is comormid with other diagnoses.  Be safe.

You actually hit the nail right on the head!  She has been diagnosed with both BPD and Schizoaffective disorder.  I should have mentioned that initially.

This may sound weird, but if it was the schizoaffective alone without the nastiness of BPD it would be a lot easier for my family to cope with this (at least I think so).

I just read through the rest of her letter where she states how concerned she is about her neighbor threatening her and she says in it:

"I may as my father to hire a private investigator.  He would do that for me.  With his daughter's life in jeopardy, he likes guns too."

My Dad has gone NC with her for a while now because of her nastiness.  How can she presume she can say things like this.  I guess I'm going to have to tell my parents after all, but it's going to wait until after Christmas.

[Kwamina]

Hi sisterofBPD

It's hard cause for years, me, my brother and my parents have tried so hard to get her the help that she needs. With her nastiness, I have just been at the end of my rope with her and I just want her to leave me alone, does that make me a horrible person?

I don't think this makes you a nasty person at all. It just makes you a realist who's clearly able to see her sister's behavior for what it really is: highly dysfunctional. This isn't a pleasant reality to accept, but given this reality I would say it's totally understandable that you would want to be left alone and have certain boundaries in place.

This time, this woman framed her causing the police to break into her apartment and taze her while she was in the shower and then threaten to rape her.

After reading the material through, do you feel like there's any credibility to your sister's story? Or do it just seem to be some elaborate fabrications?

I just read through the rest of her letter where she states how concerned she is about her neighbor threatening her and she says in it:

"I may as my father to hire a private investigator.  He would do that for me.  With his daughter's life in jeopardy, he likes guns too."

What she says here is quite disturbing. When she says he likes guns too, do you think she means that he likes guns too the same way she like guns? Has your sister ever been violent and/or as far as you know use or possess a gun?

[sisterofbpd]

Oh I am sure that most of her story is either fabrication or her delusions. Although, I wouldn't doubt if she were tazed. I highly doubt the rape stuff, she has a history of making things up.

I wouldn't be surprised if she could be violent. To my knowledge she does not have access to a gun. My Dad collets Civil War guns so for her to present him As some thug who will go after anyone who would dare upset her is ridiculous. This summer she did ask him for a gun to which he replied "THAT is NOT going to happen."it does make me wonder if she has asked anyone else though