How do I get her to leave me alone

[Panther123]

Trying go NC.  I have no problem with this at all.  I reached my breaking point a while ago and I don't ever want to see or talk to her again.

The things she has done are so hurtful I've lost all respect and interest in her.  I've worked very hard to not want revenge and feel pretty healthy.  Problem is we have joint assets and she won't settle even when she agrees on what's fair.  Changes mind later.

I just want this done.  She just wants to make my life hell.

[fred6]

Trying go NC.  I have no problem with this at all.  I reached my breaking point a while ago and I don't ever want to see or talk to her again.

The things she has done are so hurtful I've lost all respect and interest in her.  I've worked very hard to not want revenge and feel pretty healthy.  Problem is we have joint assets and she won't settle even when she agrees on what's fair.  Changes mind later.

I just want this done.  She just wants to make my life hell.

If you're tired of dealing with her about your joint assets, maybe an attorney can help you with that. I've never been in that situation before, so that's all I can think of. She's probably doing it to keep some control over you. Are the assets small personal items or houses and cars?

[Panther123]

Thanks - good suggestion and I have contacted someone.  What I really want is a moment of her sanity that last long enough to dispose of joint assets.

HOPE -> to belief.  haha that is a joke, not gonna change.

[fred6]

Thanks - good suggestion and I have contacted someone.  What I really want is a moment of her sanity that last long enough to dispose of joint assets.

HOPE -> to belief.  haha that is a joke, not gonna change.

I'm pretty sure that an attorney can speed up this process. She'll either get an attorney or negotiate something within a reasonable amount of time. I'm sure that a judge won't put up with any of this non sense. Stick around Panther123 and keep posting. These type of relationships and their aftermath create lots of inner turmoil that needs to be dealt with. Take care and keep us updated.


As far as hope goes:

He that lives upon hope will die fasting.

[Panther123]

Will do.  Yeah, hope with people like this is not realistic.  Behaviour is so erratic that it cannot be predicted or relied upon.

One day at a time, and one step at at time.  This is still very raw for her as we broke-up 6 weeks ago and she moved out 4 weeks ago. 

Clearly she cannot control herself or make rational decisions.  I believe an attorney will help as she will need one as well and is more likely to listen to hers than to me.  Told her not to contact me until after the holidays and then we can sort it out.

Her response... .I'm moving back in with you (we own house jointly).  Could be idle threat so will take it as it comes.  If she does I'll get a hotel room and accelerate my meeting with the attorney.  Considering the advisability of a restraining order to keep her out of the house and away from my kids.