He says the nurse, whom he knows, says he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him and is concerned that on the basis of what my h is saying to services he might b at risk of abuse from me. They suggested getting Patient Protection Services involved to safeguard him from the things he is telling them I am doing.
I know most of this must be true because my h wouldn't have ever heard of PPS and he was paranoid around me beyond belief after the visit. He barricaded himself in the bedroom for the night. I expected many things from the service but not collusion.
So my dilemma is what should I do ?
It sounds like the nurse is new to the case, took his statements at face value and didn't consider the established history. I feel this should be corrected, perhaps at a higher level? The longer this perception is allowed to take root, the harder it will be to get the professionals back on track.
Initially I was really angry at the suggestion of safeguarding services, but after I had calmed down I realised I have nothing to hide, because I'm not doing the things my h is saying.
I would very much appreciate any advice on how to navigate this because I know for sure this won't end here.
When I was in the middle of my separation conflict, that's what a therapist told me, that if I hadn't done anything then I wouldn't go to jail. I wasn't angry about my situation, I was downright terrified. Since my then-stbEx didn't have an established mental health history, the T's assurance didn't make me feel any better.
For your own self-protection you may need to consider separating your life from his since his mushrooming paranoia could put you at risk and your child or at least be very expensive to counteract legally and emotionally. It may actually be healthier for your son to see his father on a limited basis, that is, just on his better days.
If Staying works, that's fine. But if it doesn't, as in a square peg versus a round hole, accept that a square peg won't fit in a round hole... . It would be prudent to explore the Leaving option and structure your life now - legally, financially and otherwise - so that there are as few complications as possible whether you Stay or whether you Go.