back for the holidays

[megocean]

I haven't been here in so long that I couldn't even remember how to post! But then figured it out and, as someone else said today, I'm just here to vent... .Things have been getting better and more stable over the several yrs of my relationship with my high-functioning, diagnosed but unbtreated bf w/BPD, npd and many Aspergerers-like traits. We understand each other, and despite challenges, are pretty solid after VERY bumpy early years. Today--Christmas--was very painful and at 4pm I was alone for the day, and very sad. I said something that I hadn't considered would bother him. I know he doesn't ike the topic but this seemed such a mild comment. He completely withdrew---no anger, he was just emotionally gone---and then left my house after a bit.

I remember when I came here to this site in terrible pain several years ago and I began to learn all the things that have made this relationship possible. And I need to remember them now: let him go when he is dysregulated, you have to be strong to be in a relationship with someone with BPD. How I wish he could take me in his arms and comfort me and not pull a million miles away so easily. I have to face that things will happen---and I will do things---that result in this situation, and accept it.

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