Seems a typical attitude for what i have experienced, and it has been sloow to change. It's like a teenager mentality: "I'm on top of the world, am a unique person who is just as important as anyone else, and everyone else must respect me." I remember a few weeks ago in MC when my wife went on a big long rant about my mother. I then made some kind of comment that my mother is who she is and I love her and want her in my life. My wife then said something like, "well, I can't just accept her!" To which the MC said, "well, unfortunately you have to. You can't change her, he can't change her. She is who she is, and you have to accept that."
And a recent MC session similar was discussed, with her wanting and raving about my family, asking why nobody confronts each other, and both myself and the MC explaining that confronting won't solve anything, and that she needs to learn to accept things the way they are because getting others to change is beyond her control. She seemed to listen and understand, but an hour later she was complaining about my driving
She still complains about my mother and goes down that road, but not to that extent lately. But that is her attitude towards life in general. The other day she mentioned that she didn't originally think I was "strong enough" to handle her, and was worried that she would "break" me. Whaaaat? If she knew she was a difficult person, and worried that weaker people would break under her personality - then why not work on herself? Yet she complains about everyone leaving her... .? Her attitude is that she is an emotional person and should be allowed to be who she is, annoyed by everyone and everything, and they should accept her and she doesn't have to accept them.
