BPDexgf's father came to my home

[TheBPDSurvivor]

As I expected on this thread, https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=238816.0 the BPDexgf's came to my home day before yesterday.

He has been calling me since the last month. As I blocked his number on my phone, he couldn't talk to me.

I blocked all their numbers through an app on my phone so they'll hear a ring or two before the app blocks their call. He must've thought like I'm wantedly rejecting his call.

So I got a call from him day before yesterday afternoon and I felt in my gut like he's about to come to my home and I even gone up to picking my lock to lock the main door but then I thought I'm simply paranoid and he will never come and You know what? 10 minutes from that moment, he stormed into my room and sat in my bed and asked

"Where's our old PC? If you can't do it, just give it to me. I'll fix it in a shop in my area"

I could feel he's panicking and his voice is shaky. I've to add that he had heart attack before 6 years and done a bypass surgery.

I said, "Well, it's in the backyard. I'll have to find and clean it. You can come and pick up tomorrow"

I didn't even looked at his face or turned around.

Then he stormed out and accelerated his bike like he's onto some race or something.

After he left, I found his PC(given to me for a repair before 5 years!) from my garage but it's full of dust and I'd have to spend more than 4 hours to clean and fix it.

I don't want to see him again so I gone out of town yesterday and came home at late night.

My buddies were here today but he never came today also.

The BPDexgf college announced 4 days holidays in-a-row from 14th to 17th jan as it was a festival here.

I'm really worried if they come to my home again. I'm thinking to fix their PC tomorrow morning and get it delivered to his house through my friend.

I don't want to see this b___'s face again!

[Infern0]

Don't fix it,  dump it on their lawn with a note saying never contact me again.

[Turkish]

Call the police and report it. This man has no boundaries. Maybe you can arrange a PC exchange at the police station. As absurd as that sounds, he may need it, and maybe you do, too.

[TheBPDSurvivor]

Thanks mate. That sounds like a great idea. The truth is I don't really have any interest to fix it cos I don't feel like I can waste my time for them again.

After the devaluation stage, I lost all my self-confidence and it took a while for me to build it back. I'm a very successful person now and happy with my life. It looks like they sense it somehow and want to destroy us again.

When in relationship, the BPD asked me to buy a book for her semester which is not available in any stores. I found it on ebay from other state and bought it during the devaluation stage. I still have it in my cupboard and I'm thinking to drop it too along with their PC.

I just found that b___ created another fake account on FB and posted a pic saying "Being Ignored. Worst feeling ever" and then a bunch of romantic couples pics at 3 AM today.

[Turkish]

Sell the book. It still sounds like you are rescuing. Maybe that may make you feel better now, but what's healthy for you in the long run?

[TheBPDSurvivor]

Yeah I'm wondering about that myself like why should I feel the need to give the book back. Maybe it's because I felt invalidated cos by the time the book was delivered to me, I'm no more in the relationship and she never knew I got the book for her. Not to mention it was for the semester in 2013 and we're way past that and the book would be of no use to her now.

Dropping it back on her house and ignoring all their contact attempt/calls may make them feel like they lost a kind person. But then again, I understand they don't think like us and I don't need any of their acknowledgement to make me feel complete so I guess I'll give it to someone else who studies the same course and simply drop that PC at their home.

The thing is her father is a close friend to my controlling dad and works in the same corporation but in a different department. I'm thinking to ask my father to not let him speak/contact me and if my dad asks why, I'll simply say I'm no more in computer repair business(he knows it) and say I don't want to see him again.

[Infern0]

Rereading your post i'm surprised you didn't whoop this guys ass for barging into your room like that.

Cut em off man, cut em off.

[TheBPDSurvivor]

My thoughts exactly. I felt like I should give him a nice kick out of my room when he came inside like that But I was in a busy meeting with my client on Skype and my mind stuck at how should I react to him that's why I haven't turned around to talk with him.

The holidays began and the b___ should have came to the hometown and may come here anytime. I just dig a little deeper and found a bunch of fake accounts on facebook with her nickname(it's unique and she only uses that name) and all of them were full of pornographic images. I find it harder to remember what we talked when we're in the relationship but now I remember she loved to talk about sex everyday and that answers why there's bunch of these fake accs with those images. They must be created by the guys as a revenge whom she used and dropped like rock.

I also looked at some of her friend's accounts where she's tagged in a group pic and her eyes are covered with huge baggy dark circles. That looks terribly ugly for a 22-year old girl.

Karma is doing a great job at her.