5 months later and ive heard from her, interesting

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Hi Group

Was on here last year and decided to come give an update.

Short run down.

Got dumped by ex who suspected was BPD, tore my life apart it did. Depression, drinking, not eating, emotional wreck. I think you all know how it goes.

Well I found new friends, got out, new interests, pushed my social side quite a bit, had a few non serious girlfriends, moving house and having fun. Some weeks I don't sit down. It's good.

Then!

A friend of mine, met up with a friend of hers, they dated a bit ( the friends). Thinking ahead I asked her friend if she would ever talk to me again, to which they replied not sure, don't know. I was pre empting the enevitable awkward meet with friends someday. I told them not to ask and to leave it. Turns out he told her I'd asked.

I get a quite abrupt message asking why I could not contact her myself should I want to speak to her and it's odd how I've gone about it. Explained that I was unsure and out of respect Id asked friend not to ask.

She was ok after that.

We swapped a few messages, mainly her telling me how amazing her life is now, and she getting on well. Seen a therapist, who says she does not have mental issues but is very self destructive. Personally I think this is her trying to make herself look better than she is. She telling me life is good and she is being healthy and sensible etc. Got some new piercings and tattoos (she knows I like these things).

I heard all this before, she told me she usually follows a pattern.

Luckily I figured in the last five months I would not go back, no matter what. I'm stronger than i was.

I've not been messaging her, its always her messaging me.

So all those who think there is not life after, there can be. Just takes a bit of effort and getting out there.

I'm still sad when I think of all the fun we had, but know it could never have lasted.

Interesting her last message sounded quite ranting about how other people deal with life and sounded like she did when she was drunk when we dated... .

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Hi Group

Was on here last year and decided to come give an update.

Short run down.

Got dumped by ex who suspected was BPD, tore my life apart it did. Depression, drinking, not eating, emotional wreck. I think you all know how it goes.

Well I found new friends, got out, new interests, pushed my social side quite a bit, had a few non serious girlfriends, moving house and having fun. Some weeks I don't sit down. It's good.

Then!

A friend of mine, met up with a friend of hers, they dated a bit ( the friends). Thinking ahead I asked her friend if she would ever talk to me again, to which they replied not sure, don't know. I was pre empting the enevitable awkward meet with friends someday. I told them not to ask and to leave it. Turns out he told her I'd asked.

I get a quite abrupt message asking why I could not contact her myself should I want to speak to her and it's odd how I've gone about it. Explained that I was unsure and out of respect Id asked friend not to ask.

She was ok after that.

We swapped a few messages, mainly her telling me how amazing her life is now, and she getting on well. Seen a therapist, who says she does not have mental issues but is very self destructive. Personally I think this is her trying to make herself look better than she is. She telling me life is good and she is being healthy and sensible etc. Got some new piercings and tattoos (she knows I like these things).

I heard all this before, she told me she usually follows a pattern.

Luckily I figured in the last five months I would not go back, no matter what. I'm stronger than i was.

I've not been messaging her, its always her messaging me.

So all those who think there is not life after, there can be. Just takes a bit of effort and getting out there.

I'm still sad when I think of all the fun we had, but know it could never have lasted.

Interesting her last message sounded quite ranting about how other people deal with life and sounded like she did when she was drunk when we dated... .

[JRT]

Glad to hear you have your life back!