last year my attachment with my expwBPD began at a St Patrick fest thrown every year that I usually perform at ,,and we work together and last week I secured a transfer and within the day I was gone without saying a word ... .and have barley spoke to her in 4 months ,,but tonight I got text at the fest that she is there at the fest , lucky for me I backed out this year ,,but she would have had to know there was a strong chance I'd be there ,,I can't help to wonder if she thought we might have run into each other granted she might have given me the cold shoulder response ,,does the abandonment fears happen if the friendship was already eroded? I suspect she is a fake page on my Facebook ,,am I overthinking ? is this part of the healing?
Yes you are overthinking, but we are all doing it which is why we are on here
If the relationship was right and she cared she wouldn't be waiting for the fest, she would have sat down just the two of you ages ago and tried to work things out. You did the best thing for you which was not to go. That shows strength, so we'll done and keep moving forwards